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writes:I am 20 years old and my sister is 18 years old. Our parents are usually not home: my dad is a long distance 18 wheeler driver and since my sister graduated from high school last year, my mom often goes with our dad. Both my sister and I hate wearing clothes for some reason. So when are parents are away, we usually walk around the house completely nude. Yes, we even hang out together at home while we are nude (watching TV, eating dinner, playing board games, est.). There is nothing sexual about it. We even talked about taking a trip to a nudist camp together to meet other people that enjoys nudity. We do wear clothes when our parents are home or if one of us have friends over. I am just wondering if there is anything wrong with us being nude around each other?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2018): Btw, I have to roll my eyes as people who think just because you are a man and she is a woman, that you are somehow "bound" to develop sexual interest in each other just because you are naked.
If siblings were sexually interested in each other, they would be so even if they were clothed at all times. Just seeing someone naked doesn't mean you brain is bound to want to have sex with them... come on. I get that people who aren't used to nude people will worry about this, but the reality is that it doesn't happen. We don't need to see someone naked to establish whether or not we'd like to have sex with them, and if we don't want to have sex with someone, we aren't going to want it even if we are naked together.
Just take a look to Finland, where it is quite common to take sauna together, the whole family. Naked. Everyone naked. Male, female, doesn't matter. Look at every nudist camp there is. They are not orgies. Why? Because people who accept the body as it is, and are comfortable with nude bodies, will see it as something natural, not sexual. Being naked is not sexual in itself.
The reason they don't do it around their parents is because their parents enjoy having clothes on. It's out of respect for those who are not nudists. So that they will feel comfortable. Not because there is anything secret or shameful about being naked. Just the same way someone will wear a bikini at the beach, but will put more clothes on while going to the super marked. It's just a matter of etiquette and being polite.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2018): As long as it's not sexual, then nothing is wrong about it. Visit a nude camp together, I think that sounds like a great idea. Get to know others and perhaps talk to other nudists about how they practice nudism in their every day lives. To get a better understanding of it and to find kindred spirits.
Nothing wrong in being au naturel.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (28 January 2018):
 It's not normal or common, but it's up to you. Everyone else would find it incestuous, even if it isn't sexual, as your eyes not supposed to be naked around family, once you're a teenager. Partners won't understand it. Family won't understand it.
If you really only want to be nude because you want to, not because it's around your sister, actually GO to a nudist camp. If you won't, then it's because you and your sister have this taboo nudity thing between you and it's not as non-sexual as you believe it to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2018): It may be non sexual now but it can take only a small touching even by accident by one of you to the other to turn it sexual even before you know it. You are both are at a very vulnerable age. I advice you to stop this and you must have a gf of your own to play with and encourage your sister to have a bf herself too.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 January 2018):
 Yeah, it's weird.
You know it is.
Otherwise you wouldn't wear clothes around your parents and friends.
I get the whole being comfortable in your own skins, that is a good thing but board-games, dinner naked? There is another element to this. Maybe the taboo. Maybe the chance of getting "caught". Not sure. But it's not ALL about comfort.
Go to a nudist camp... figure out if being naked is really something that is important to you.
But with your sister? That adds a little "eww" twist. Sorry.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 January 2018):
 If there's nothing wrong then why don't you do it in front of your parents or your friends?
In no universe is this acceptable or "right" and you are both going to have a very tough time having to explain this to anyone.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (28 January 2018):
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Lots of people go to nudist camps and nude beaches without any sexual purpose or ideas. But as N91 suggests, it is best not to talk about this with others...there are lots of people who wouldn't quite understand this because of what they were taught growing up.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (28 January 2018):
 Well, from your letter it seems this nudity-club of yours only blossoms when your parents aren't around. Is it a secret of sorts or are they aware that this is what you two tend to do?
Is it wrong? No....
Would it be frowned upon by society? Yes, in general....
Do I think you two should continue this? Probably not, here's why.
You two are still young, and believe it or not still growing. Although you two are siblings the fact that you're often around each other, alone and naked, it's bound to develop certain thoughts over time. Why? Because you're a man and she's a woman. Provided you're both straight of course. Worse if you two are single for long periods of time.
Quick flashes of unusual thoughts may begin to pop-up out of nowhere, You may one day suddenly notice her breasts, or become curious to see what her her vagina looks like up close or maybe one day your hand slips and touches her bottom or maybe you might just get an erection suddenly. I'm not saying something will happen but actions often stem from thoughts first. It's very possible she may begin to or already has experienced this then things can become really awkward fast between the two of you.
Don't think because she's your sister it would be impossible to happen. If the conditions are right anything can take place. Remember you're the big brother, so she follows your example.
A nude GROUP is fine. Two siblings naked and alone over an extended period of time and use to it while trying to keep it secret from others....sounds like a recipe for potential regrets in the future.
I'm not saying it's WRONG. I'm saying that it could lead to undesired outcomes.
All the best.
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reader, N91 +, writes (28 January 2018):
 To me, I find it odd yes.
But if you and your sister are comfortable and there's nothing sexual involved with it I suppose you're not affecting anyone else, so I guess do whatever you want.
However if people discovered this, don't be surprised if they're alarmed by it as I can't imagine many people thinking this is the norm.
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