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writes:I have recently broke up with my girlfriend. It happened yesterday to be exact.We've been together for a couple of months and I'm really in love with her. She told me that she loved me too and that she was in love with me but yesterday she said that she no longer sees me in a romantic sense.My heads a bit of a mess of differing thoughts and view right now on the issue; but this break up was sudden for me. We haven't had sex in around a month which during this time she's been working in a new job which she hates and is constantly vocal about how much she hates it and talks about seeing a councillor due to feeling unhappy from it; her attitude since getting this job is more negative than before.I really do love her; I couldn't sleep last night because I just didn't want to wake up to a day knowing that we won't be together. She's asked if we can still be friends and I just don't know if that's possible for me. While I don't want her out of my life; the way I want her in my life is not as a friend but as something more; and I fear that us being friends would just be me waiting for her to change her mind on me.Is there anything I can do to save this relationship? Or is it completely over and I have no chance in hell of being with her?Im just lost on what to do now and feel so powerless that I can't do anything to salvage this.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (10 September 2013):
 HI
Give her some time to think. She maybe regretting ending things herself , work can stress people out in different ways, so she is probably still adapting to the change . You can't make someone want or love you BUT you can try to capture what you had in the beginning. Why not ask her to go out for a drink or a meal so you can discuss if there is a possible reconciliation, this way you can find out exactly what and why things changed and how you can make things better.
Mandy x
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reader, Soul Writer  +, writes (20 August 2013):
 First of all, I am sorry that you have found yourself in this type of situation. Times like these are challenging and confusing.
Now, there is always a chance to salvage/fix things...but you must decide what you want...and whether or not you want to do what is best for you or her. Perhaps you will find a solution that works great for you both. The most important thing is to talk to her. Maybe she felt you lost interest in her romantically. You cannot take action until you know how.
I hope you get things figured out. Best wishes!
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