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writes: dear cupid ,wondering if you could help me , me and my girlfriend have been together about a year and a half now she is 18 and i am 22, lately well for a fair while we ahve not had sex as much as both wanted too mainly to her not being able to get horny or getting to tired, back in the past and to this date she has had a few depression issues which sumtimes contribute to this, but we still only seem to do anything about once a week, she even wen into her head for 2 seconds if she still found me attractive but has told me that she does and loves me soo much,so please help is there anything i am able to do to or fo her to help her regain that sex drive backthank you.
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reader, Bigbooteh  +, writes (11 July 2008):
Women usually feel this way due to deppression, anxiety, living with parents and insecuriety. And theres nothing worse than feeling pressured to have sex or feeling guilty because your just not in the mood.
I love sex when im in the mood, im adventurous, sexy and know how he likes it and i suppose thats why i feel hopeless when im just not in the mood.
O and ladies drugs, alchohol, tranqullizers, antidreppressents will also affect you. You may wanna fuck like bunnies if your flying high but it doesnt solve the problem trust me.
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reader, james1980 +, writes (13 September 2006):
My ex was the same bud, some women find it hard to imagine sex let alone the act itself, yo us blokes its quite easy with few emotions at the time. I would agree with the other writers comments that you should woo her, - try not to smother her thow as this will have the opposite affect, make her feel like she is the only girl left in YOUR entire world, tell her your fantasies in an explicit sexual way (not too rough tho) and I would like to think she would open up to this. my ex and I still sleep together when we see each other (dont ask) and she does enjoy it, she rarely initates but when she gets into it she is first class!! They are a confusing breed afetr-all mate!! Good luck. J
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reader, hunney +, writes (13 September 2006):
hey mate take her for some real sweet, romantic dinners. flirt with her act like you have just met her i know this sounds coo coo but i was the same and my man acted like he just met me and he flirted and all that type of stuff now we are like rabbits. so act like you just met her be gentle and romantic. hope this helps good luck mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): You need to woo her, brother. If you don't know what woo means, it's an old timey word used for courting. Send her flowers, treat to a day at the spa where she can be cared for and pampered. If you don't have a lot of money, here's a inexpensive thing that will mean the world to her: go out and find a beautiful card and just tell her how much you love her and how important she is to you. That'll have her bawling and in the mood, I promise. Guys show their emotions through physical things. Women do it through feelings and emotions.
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reader, tornadoneil +, writes (13 September 2006):
tornadoneil is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks ppl for ur advice sounds better in my mind now tht u girls have told me about it :-), but queenoftheworld + i dnt like thinkin tht ive gotta wait till she comes onto me as it seems like then we only do nething on her terms n wen she wnts wud make u feel a bit used etc like get tht extra bit closer on the only few times she gets horny
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 queenoftheworld couldn't have put it better! I too am a at that moment where i'm just not interested in sex, i'm not even in the mood to cuddle. and there is nothing worse than a guy trying to hard to get you going, it's an even bigger turn off, so let her get back into it in her own time, and believe me when she does it will come back with a bang
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reader, queenoftheworld +, writes (13 September 2006):
i have the same problem at the moment, except i'm the girl losing her sex drive, the only thing i can think of is the constant coming onto me, i find it abit of a turn off but i also feel guilty because i feel like i'm not being a very good girlfriend if i can't at least give him half of what he wants, so i guess what i'm saying is back right off on the sex front, still be loving towards her and just wait for her to let you know where she's at or when she comes onto you
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reader, tornadoneil +, writes (13 September 2006):
tornadoneil is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjust needing to add to this that she is in love me me loads, feels safe & and loved back and i treat her like a princess
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 Unlike men, most women thrive on connectedness and emotional intimacy. If you don't have that then her desire for sex with you will suffer. You need to make her feel loved, safe, secure, trusted and sexy. If you can do all those things then she'll want to have sex with you. Don't pressure her, instead nurture her and let her feel that she can be free and be herself with you.
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