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writes:I am attracted to this younger lady whom I would guess is around 20 years old I am fifty but my question is is there a way to determine if a younger much younger girl is attracted to someone like me who is fit?Are there signs I can watch for that gives me the green light to approach so I don't come across as some dirty old man?Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Well, I would agree that she is VERY young...but - she could like you. I know from personal experience that it is very possible to like someone many years older than you. In my case - my guy is about 22 years older. I don't show any signs because I fear rejection....I'd say - be friends first, then ask later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): OK thanks for the added replies.I have the confidence but just didn't want to come across as a creepy dude so I'll be on the look out for the signs and try the convo and be nice approach.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (15 February 2010):
The tried and tested 'just friends' approach is the safest. Just because she is smiling and friendly it doesn't mean she is ready to be romantic. Perhaps you remind her of her favourite uncle or something so don't take friendliness as a romantic cue. Rather use it as an opportunity to find out more about her and her life. Have a friendly chat with her, no winking or any vulgar 'come hither' eyebrow jiggles; she will probably be disgusted and lose respect. Just ask her about herself, her parents, her work. Talk positive; eg. if she says she's in college but doesn't like it, you could tell her to stay focussed on achieving her goals etc. End the conversation on the same friendly non romantic note; perhaps give her your card and tell her when she gets fed up with cafeteria food then she should feel free to contact you for a decent friendly dinner. If you give her a 'creep'-free good first impression then she will probably contact you. Good luck.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (15 February 2010):
 I would say a girl is attracted to you if she: constantly looks at you, tries to get your attention, dresses more nicely around you, is smiling whenever you face her, tries to make conversation with you, stays close to you, laughs more often when around you, makes eye contact, and the list goes on.
Like someone before me said, you have to show your confidence. Start a conversation with her about something minor, then you'll get to see how she reacts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2010): Just stay away from 20 years old. It is not the right attraction... Go for the 30 and over, and leave the 20 year old for her age group. Be kind!
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reader, Powerlifter +, writes (15 February 2010):
Thanks could you be a bit more specific on the signs? Are we talking eye contact or catching them eyeing you or smiling as the standard of showing attraction?
I guess he reason I am so wondering is I don't want to be the older creepy guy hitting on a younger lady. I want to appear cool with your and make her comfortable being around me etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): I like older guys , quite a bit older , I think all the signs are just the standard ones , just be gentle and caring and go ask her out , just for lunch or coffee . You will quickly work out where you stand . Really wish you good luck with it .
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): Well, the thing is, it is a little taboo so nothing will happen unless you just go for it. Don't be cheesy. The best thing about an older guy is that he is manly and unafraid and experienced. YOu have to show her that she is dealing with a man. Already you are afraid, and that is not good.At fifty you should be a force of nature, confident, manly. The best way to approach her is with humour that has insight about life.
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