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writes:hello!please help me.im 17yrs and ive been dating this guy for 2.7 yrs.we went to school together and all of our friends believe that we are going to get married,he actually preposed to me 3 times.he says how much he loves me and makes plans for the future.so everything is perfect and very happy,but thething is that every summer i have to go america for the whole summer,for 3 months,so we dont see each other during that time.our relationship is very confusing,because he likes to break up and then get back together.so we are sort of on and of.not for a long time though,like a week or 2.so this year im a senior and when i finish school im going to college in america and he is moving to moscow,and when i came from america i told him all this and that this year might be the last year to see each other again,of coursed asked him what he thinks about it,he said that he doesnt want to lose me and rather date me as long as he can and didnt believe that we could date each other while im in college and he is moscow,cause during summer we both would be coming home.so after a week i had to go with family on vacation to turkey for 10 days,we got into a fight as usual he got pissed off and decided to break up,i thought he wasnt for real,as soon as i got to the hotel i messaged him like everyday saying how much i miss him,but when i got home he said calmly that he daoesnt have feelngs for me anymore that he forgot me for 12 hours without trying,he said it over the phone,usually he says this all the time when we fight except he gets mad,but this time he was calm,i dont believe that he doesnt love me i just dont know whats wrong,im afraid that this is it.i really hope its not,because i cant imagine my life without him,you know he isnt just a bf,he is more,we've been though a lot together and know each other well,only this time i have no idea what to think, pls tell me is there any way that he still loves me and that i can make up with him?
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reader, cheerycharlie  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 hya love,
it seems to me your bf is seeing the unfortunate bad side of your long term relationship and maybe has had time to think whilst you have bin gone! he may realise a patteren off not seeing each other and now he knows that you wont see him agen when you move, he dosnt want to get too attatched and let it gradually fade. i think he does still hae feelings for you but needs to let them go so he doent get hurt. or maybe he is just sick of breaking up and getting back together. let him no that you understand why he is feeling this and that you want to make the best of what you have got
yours charlie xxxxx
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