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writes: I'm a few months away from being 16 and i have been engaged to my fiance for about 2 years now and a few weeks ago my mom decides to move and make me go with her is there any chance that i could go live with my fiance?
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (20 April 2006):
It is rather strange, and if you don't mind me saying so, totally inappropriate, that you would get engaged at 14 years old - you are barely more than a child.
It sounds like your mom is a single mom, and therefore it is not surprising that you want to attach yourself to a man (boy).
I assume you are still at school and if possible you should be thinking about staying on at school and if appropriate to your academic background, going on to university. You will usually need your parents' support for that.
What does your "finance" think of this? What do his parents think of it? Does he live with them? How old is he? How far away is your mom moving?
I suggest you talk with your mom about how you don't want to move away, that you talk with your finance and his parents, and that you reach a mutually agreeable solution. Try to avoid conflict.
Good luck
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reader, alyxf +, writes (20 April 2006):
If you are only 16, I would advise you to remain living with your mother, as long as there are no other issues to be considered, such as abuse. Surely you will still be in contact with your fiance? Also, other factors such as your education need to be thought about. You don't say how old your fiance is, or if you'd be living with his family if you left your mother.I'm 17, also engaged, and during a particularly stressful time with my mother, did consider leaving home. My fiance told me that I had to write a letter, basically saying that I was leaving of my own free will and stating my reasons for doing so, leaving one copy where my mother could find it, and give one to him, so that if police became involved, there would be more evidence that I hadn't been kidnapped.I do however advise you to wait until you are at least 16, and before making any decisions, talk it over with someone you trust (elder brothers/sisters, teachers?). You could always ring a helpline like childline for more advice on legal matters, and for confidentiality....Hope I've been of some help, message me if you want :)Alyx
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