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anonymous
writes:Please help me? :(I met up with a male friend (the first time I'd ever met him) a few months ago as STRICTLY a friends thing. I did this because he did something horrible to me and wanted to apologise in person, so I invited him down. I feel ashamed to say this but I only invited him down so that I could reject him in person. I did not do anything romantic or couple like with him at all. He tried to kiss me but I pushed him away. However, I told my boyfriend that I wasn't going to meet him and that I didn't meet him. I did this because when I met the guy, my boyfriend said he wanted to be there, but when I met this guy my boyfriend was working. I didn't want him to take the day off work because he barely has enough money to buy the necessities... I know I shouldn't have lied, but I did, and I did it for him. I told my boyfriend a week or two later, and at first he was angry but he forgave me in the end and it hasn't come up for months..However, today he sent me a text message saying it still bothered him and that I needed to help him think of a way to get over this. My boyfriend believes I cheated on him because I apparently "tasted like another male", however my friends and counsellor just think that because he was so sure I had met up and cheated on him, that his mind was playing tricks on him. I did not kiss my online friend. I have never cheated on my boyfriend in my life. I have stopped speaking to my friend because I know my boyfriend does not like it (we haven't spoken in a few months now. Is there any way I can help him get over this so we can move on? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): Hes being a little dramatic saying you tasted like another male but it must have looked very suspicious to him. One of those cases where it might have been best to keep quiet once you had decided to go down the road of lying to him. But its done now. The best thing you can do is let him vent. Someone upset me by lying once. We got over it but it took me a few years! Every now and then i would have a vent and he put up with it and said how sorry he was each time. In the end he will get over it but it might always affect the way he regards you now x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2010): I am the poster of the question and would just like to thank you for your fast response and your great advice :). Trust me, Ive learned my lesson. I won't do it again. But thank you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (18 January 2010):
Get him to talk about how he feels. And really listen to him. Then spend a lot of time asking him what you can do and apologizing. And clearly never lie about meeting men off the internet again, or he won't trust you. All you can do is speak to him and really reassure him.
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