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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:basically, i was with this lad for about 4 months, then we split up due to an argument that got a little heated, he said some things, i said some things, and well yeah in the spur of the moment, i ended it, but i never realised what a mistake i would be making just by muttering those words.i tried to put it right so many times, but he would have none of it, so in the end i gave up on this whole relationship with him, however as a naive young girl, i carried on giving the lad what he wanted and i carried on sleeping with him. somehow throughout the whole predicament we'd still manage to keep our friendship intact, which was a miracle if im honest, however it got to the point where he'd invite me round, and he just wanted to spend time with me, not just use me for sex, it felt amazing, he would hold me in his arms, and we'd just talk for hours on end, and then the other day, i was round there and he started singing 'bruno mars-just the way you are' to me, now although he didnt sound beautiful with his gruff manly voice, the thought was absoloutely flawless! he then started calling me beautiful and then went to say something but then said 'it doesnt matter' so as a nosey female, i asked him what it was he had gone to say, now after half an hour of persuasion he told me, and he told me he loved me, and he kept saying it, however then apologised saying 'i love you, so f***** much, but i dont want to love you, no offence, but i dont want to love anyone, but i cant help but love you, i keep trying to walk away from what we had and trying to let go, but every time i do i just find myself getting closer to you' and pretty much for the rest of the night i was mute, appart from when he decided to say i was 'his girl' and i laughed it off and said im not. and although it came at a shock, it was such a perfect night, and i went round there again, a couple of days later and yes he did the usual of holding me in his arms and talking to me, and this time he decided to speak about other girls, not saying he liked them or anything, but it was just weird, and it was nothing like the sunday, now whether or not he was holding back because of my reaction to sunday or not i dont know, but where do we go from here? what do i do? is there any point waiting around for something that might not even happen?
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 He's conflicted. Part of the reason for that is your continued sexual relationship. People think that FWB's are possible, but they aren't for the majority of people out there.
What you need to do is decide what you want. If you want this boy, then maybe try waiting. If you don't see it going anywhere, then you need to sever this relationship. Neither of you will ever move on if you don't move on. Having sex with each other isn't moving on.
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