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writes:Well, there's this guy at one of my jobs whom I like a lot. The other day, he mentioned how he should take me out sometime but, "Not as a date", which I hoped was a positive sign. Later on, I approached him and asked if we could make it a date. He then explained that he actually wasn't interested in any relationship due to past complications with an ex. What I want to know is...is there any point in pursuing anything other than friendship with him? He knows I like him, and I don't want to pressure him into anything he's not even ready to consider. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2011): Nah komali did a good job summing up why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): ~TRUTHFUL TONGUE ON MUFFLED EARS~
At start, he was clear, direct and exact with respect to his intent with you: "...he mentioned how he should take me out sometime but, "Not as a date...".
Shortly thereafter, he reiterated when you "...asked if we could make it a date. He then explained that he actually wasn't interested in any relationship due to past complications with an ex."
Admire, respect and commend him on his clarity, directness and honesty with you as he is respecting you by not misleading you to a false hope of a romantic involvement with him. Embrace, accept and appreciate his truth, as he has your best interest at heart by sparing you "candidate o' rebound" as implied from his unresolved mental state regarding his ex.
Reciprocate respectfully with his best interest at heart, allowing him the independence mandated to heal behind his ex. Be his platonic friend void of any and all romantic ulterior motives, otherwise undue pressure from you could cost you the opportunity of building a very deeply meaningful, unbreakable, lifetime friendship with a man whose heart extends beyond himself.
God Bless.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011): No, there's no point...he likes you only as a friend and the chemistry is not there for him.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Well he rejected the notion of it being a date not once, but twice...
Not a great sign.
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