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writes:Is there any hope for this man being any better than he's shown himself to be? I was with him for five years- where he lied/cheated/manipulated me repeatedly. Last time we spoke (a week back), he admitted he never 'dweels' on things. He doesn't think back or ponder over things, just moves on. Is that why he could do the things he did and treat me this way- is this someone who will never learn from his mistakes? He's occupied too much room in my head lately- and frankly, he is simply NOT worth it! I know it. He's an extremely dishonest and self absorbed man. At thirty, he has the emotional intelligence of a five year old. I am angry at myself for not moving on yet! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): You waited for five years for him to be a better person, and that never happened. Unfortunately it doesn't seem like you're going to get much closure, but it's definitely time to move on. You need to stop talking to him so you have enough distance to heal and regroup. Throw yourself into family/friends/work/school, whatever you have going on. Do fun things and be around the people that really care about you. You deserve so much better than this guy.
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reader, JustAdreamer  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 I had the same problem...I was so angry and I hated him, but you know...my ex said that he doesn't care and that he doesn't love me anymore...I was broken...But you have to belive in your own strenght...I mean...He will be sad that he let u go...you don't have to tell him anything...as long as you "dissapear" from his life, he will miss you... but when he will come back running...it'll be too late... YOU DON'T HAVE TO REGRET ANYTHING... It was worth then...but that was then...now...it's over...let him know that you're not upset and don't tell him you hate him...cuz he will say that you can't move on...HE WILL BE THE ONE WHO CAN'T GET OVER IT... and will come back pleading...maybe...or maybe not...SO MUCH BETTER...C'mon! You will survive! I'm sure you can ;)
A friend :D
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