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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 months, and we both feel ready to have sex. i want to make sure that we are the safest we can be. how can we avoid breaking the condom?also, i heard it hurts the first time. is there any ways or positions to make it better for me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Dont worried im terrified also. You are not alone. I know its going to hurt but like the others say it will get better. I know from what ive heard is that you need to be relaxed and dont tense up because it will be difficult for him to get it in.
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reader, hotttmess  +, writes (26 November 2010):
 honey, the truth is...if you plan it all out, the anitcipation is going to make it akward. You should let things flow and allow things to be natural. There really isn't a way to avoid it hurting the first time, except for a little foreplay first( but I promise it gets better!).
As far as the condom, make sure he has the right size ( that it isn't too loose or too tight) and make sure he put its on the correct way leaving a little space at the tip!
If you are really concerned about the condom breaking you can always tell your doctor you have an irregular period and get on birth control:)
Have fun& be safe!
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (26 November 2010):
 If you want to be extra safe, go on the contraceptive pill as well as use condoms. That way if the condom splits, you are covered. Or the other thing you can do, if the condom splits, is to get the morning after pill.
Keep in mind, condoms don't split often. As long as you get a good quality respected brand of condom, it is unlikely it will split. Those stories you hear about condoms splitting and the girl getting pregnant are rare. Most of the time this won't happen. But to be extra safe, use the pill as well.
I would suggest using the missionary position for the first time, or if you are brave, try you going on top. That way you would have control of the pace. Or missionary is the standard position and the easiest to start with. Tell him to go VERY slowly and communicate with him if he is going too hard or fast or if it hurts at all.
Make sure to get warmed up first. You vagina is made of muscles, they need to be warmed up and relaxed or it will hurt. This is similar to exercising without warming up first. Spend a lot of time on foreplay so that you are both turned on. Get him to finger you and give you oral sex. Also it would be a good idea to use lube for your first time. This will make things slide more comfortably.
Most importantly relax and have fun! Try to enjoy yourself and enjoy the feeling of intimacy with your boyfriend. If you are gentle and careful it won't hurt and it will be a pleasant experience.
Also don't worry if it doesn't work the first time. If you are both virgins, it can take a few times to get the hang of it. It did for me :) It was kind of awkward, but you figure it out eventually so keep going, and good luck!
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