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writes: I am working a really neat volunteer job which involves politics which I am interested in. I am working closely with a married man who is extremely attractive to me but I have nipped it in the bud He has a wife and I care about her feelings and I know that I would be sloppy seconds if I got involved with this man. I have a good sense of myself and I know the peace that comes with being honest. The problem is that I have been paired with this man to help manage a campaign and he has asked me out for drinks a couple of times. I have told him that I am not interested and he is not cooperating with me on the project....he is acting sullen and upset. I feel sick that I may have to transfer off this project for this reason. Is there a way that I can get the message out that it is a no go with him, work with him and on a project which is important to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2006): So far you've only indicated that the attraction was on your side. When you "nipped it in the bud", had he ever made a pass at you? If not, you're rejecting his probably friendly approaches unecessarily. Being a little friendlier with him on your part (in strictly honourable terms) would probably smooth over this problem you're having at work. "Drinks" is not always a date. It's actually pretty normal after-work fare for professionals.
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