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writes:Dear All:I am having a problem and that's how I got to this site. My new husband of 6 months has two pompekes and his Mom has been taking care of them for a while for us. The dogs came to our new home on Saturday and there is doggy poop all over a sandbox right near our front step. They have torn up a small broom outside leaving bristles and sand all over the new step. I fell once on those steps due to sand being on them. The smell is pretty bad and he promises to clean up but in the evening after work. When I wake up in the morning to prepare for the day including his lunch, coffee, this is what I am greeted with (smell).I have fed them for the past week more or less and I must now keep my beautiful new front door locked.I can see how the dogs may afford us some safety but they rarely bark and they are small dogs!I think as a child and young adult I cared for sufficient pets including dogs. I would prefer that we get a cat since they jump on you less and they go in a litter box. Of course they do kill birds, mice and bring 'em into the house. The truth is I am getting accustomed to being a new bride along with all its duties and I really resent being saddled with this responsibility. I have also been told that the dog's hair/fur may create problems for pregnant women and we are trying to start a family. I do not want to upset my husband but I am currently holding some anger about all of this since I have told him on various occasions before the wedding that I did not want the dogs. We will have to neuter them (they are both female) and that costs some down here. In addition, I am concerned about how his mom will react since she endured the caregiving for some time and I want to ditch this plan. I want him to be happy and have this thing that he says he never had as a boy but I simply cared for too many pets back in the day. I want my surroundings to be clean, polished and smell free sans the yucky sandy poopy mess!Any one out there has any advice??
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): It is called the, "Sam Simon Foundation"
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Hi there,
I really think that he needs to start dealing with his puppies. I mean, having them poop all over the place is just gross. Your husband needs to get these dogs trained and needs to start picking up after them.
I would tell him, "look. You know I'm not crazy about the dogs, but I can live with them if you train them and keep the areas clean." You can't have a family when they'll be surrounded by doggy droppings!
I absolutely love dogs, but my dogs have always been trained VERY well and do their business in designated corners of the backyard. I understand how your husband wouldn't want to give up the dogs - he might have a really deep connection to them, as I have with my pets. However, he needs to meet you halfway and start taking responsibility for them.
Good luck, sweetness!
xx India
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Well, the fact that you told him specificlly that you didnt want these dogs before you got married should make him less suprised when you tell him that you are going to sell them ( which is what you need to do: talk to him about it) if he dosnt start taking care of them. You need to talk to him, tell him everything you just posted. I understand you dont want to seem like the evil wife, however, you reasons for not wanting them are valid. He, as a good husband, should understand, and either start taking care of them so they dont get sold, or sell them!There is no reason he cant pick up the poop, and clean up outside. Thats just gross. I am a dog person, but I also understand that it is neglectful to own a dog and not clean up after them. Marriage is about compramise, so you two should meet half way here and work something out that works for the both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): Well for neutering them, it does cost alot, but a got my two neutered, for free, it is a foundation, and they are very professional, my dogs healed in a day or two. If you want the web site, just Email me, I am...DocDell.
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