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writes:All my life (and I mean, all my life), I've been attracted to bigger (and taller) men weight wise. I'm a rather petite girl myself (my peak weight is right now at 120 lbs). And I'm rather average height for being a 21 year old woman (I'm 5'3"). I've only ever dated bigger guys; my ex was 6'4" and 310 lbs. My current boyfriend is 6'2" and 285 lbs.And I have to wonder: Am I insecure about something? Am I only after heavier guys because they are less sought after by most women? I want to know if there might be a deeper and/or logical meaning to my attraction towards bigger men. Thanks for any answers.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 June 2011):
 I wouldn't worry about it. I prefer bigger taller guys too. and thick... my ex husband is 6'4" and was nearly 500 pounds..
i'm tiny 5'2" size 6 or so....
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): I personally have the same attraction but only because I have dated a couple super skinny guys, not on purpose, and I constantly felt bad about my weight and build, when I'm perfectly normal height and build etc.
So I feel more comfortable with a more stocky build as I don't feel I have to compete for a smaller waist haha.
I also prefer them because they appear more manly and genetically stronger.
Why does it worry you? We are all attracted to different people... Otherwise we would all look the same!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): well im the opposite i have only ever been attracted to very skinny men, kind of nerdy personality i think its just preference ive been on dates with other guys but ive just never been attracted to them as i say its just who you are attracted to :)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 I don't think so, or at least only in small part .
Sure, if you only go after guys whom other women generally turn down, it's sort of a safe bet, there's no competition and that must be reassuring.
BUt, you also do like these guys, don't you ? There must be something in their stocky build that attracts you - I don't think you'd be intimate with a guy who physically repels you.
So, don't go too Freudian with that. Yes, maybe your first "imprinting " in term of love objects came from a big bodied individual, but a simpler truth is that there's no accounting for tastes and people like what they like.
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