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writes:Allright long story short there's a girl in my class I've been crushing on for a while. Specifically like 3 months. Maybe more. Anyhoo we get along great, there seems to be some connection, currently friends (though not GREAT ones), yada yada but there seems to be a lot of mixed signals between us. I'm guilty of it probably more than her... Even worse I think she liked me back in September but I didn't at the time so I wasn't too receptive to her flirting. I kind of feel like a jackass. I'm not trying to mess with her. We'll talk a lot and stuff for a week then when I feel it's time to ask her out she seems to go cold, making me lose confidence and spiral back in terms of flirting and such. Then it'll return to normal over a week or two. Repeat for 3 months and you have my situation. Anyways I'm worried at this point it would just be bad taste to ask her out after unwillingly playing this dodge game for the past months. I don't think I'm really friend Zoned, but at the same time whenever I feel it's about timeto ask he out she seems to act all distant. Is there a point where it's just rude to come out and ask regardless of this sick back and forth that's been going on? I just sometimes feel it's be best to just call it quits and firmly plant myself as just a friend because I keep feeling it'd be wierd,, but at the same time I can't just do that... I know this is an Ill defined question, but I think you can catch my drift. I don't wan to come off as an ass for not asking her out/being indifferent for so long then coming out an asking all of a sudden this late in the year.
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reader, lovesalias +, writes (1 February 2009):
 You only live once and you dont want to have to live with the question of what it for the rest of your life. Remain the charming confident guy that you are and playfully ask her during the next one of your flirt sessions if she would mind if you told everyone she was your girlfriend. It will throw her off and be really charming at the same time. If she likes you she will say that she doesnt mind yes you can call her your girl and if she doesnt and says no then you can play it off like you were just joking. However when you ask her this look right in to her eyes with a big (not too big) confident smile like you know that she will say yes and do not look away until you get her answer, this way she will know that even though you asked in a joking way that you are serious. Good Luck! I hope this helps!
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