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anonymous
writes:Im new here but you see i have 2 problems.My partner and i have been together for 18 months we have lived together for 16 months.My partner use to be very sexual but the last time we had sex was 5 months ago and has been doing alot of over time at work.The other problem is He tells his family that we are just friends. (I am n my late 20s and he is in his early 50s)Our ages is not a problem with me but can any one give me your views on this situations Please.Thank you
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reader, sexi  +, writes (11 October 2007):
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They may not like it now but they would get used to the idea. It is their problem to deal with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks heaps for your replys and helpful advice. Things have improved so much (The sex) and also he has now told his fmaily which is great. They dont like the idea but as he and i said its our life so but out.
Anyway thank you again
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reader, sexi +, writes (26 September 2007):
Hi
It is a pleasure. Dont worry too much about the family thing either or about what other people think. What really matters is that the 2 of yourll are happy.Although there is such an age gap between me and my bf, i have realised that his companionship is better than any of my other relationship i ever had in the past. He treats me better than anybody ever has. Basically,your relationship would turn out to be what you make it out to be, Just be happy that is what counts.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): Glad to be of help. Do please let me know how you get on!
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou was right Uncle Phil, I asked my partner If the reason for him not telling his family was because he was worried they might think he is a cradle snatcher and for the first time ever he gave me the answer YES. He said he loves me and would go to the end of the earth for me but he wants his family to get to know me for who i am first than slowly introduce the idea of us being together. Thank you so much Uncle Phil and sexy for your advice. Oh and he is going to DRs on friday. After he seen me reading your advice he started reading it and relised that it is a problem and has taken your advice on it. Thanx again
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reader, sexi +, writes (25 September 2007):
Hi
With regards to the age gap, i am 19 and my bf is 30. Our relationship is great and everything is good. I think age gaps are only a problem if you make it one. With regards to your intimacy, there could be a number of problem, he could be tired ater work or stressed about work. Here you need to speak to him to get answers. Ask him about the lack of your sex life.Hope this helped.
Regards,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): The age difference probably isn't that important at the moment, but in ten years time I can see that there might be. You'll be in your prime sexually, but in all probability he'll be at the stage where he's past it. As you haven't had sex in 5 months I think there's a problem already in that department. Perhaps he's anxious about his performance etc. Perhaps he's lost the ability to maintain an erection. If so, Viagra or Cialis is helpful and there are other remedies for erectile dysfunction, some more pleasant than others.
Get him checked over by his Doc. - there may be other factors involved.
If you can see a future without sex and if it isn't that important to you, things could tick along quite nicely. If not, I see tensions ahead for you.
As for his friends and family, he's more than likely afraid of being called a cradle-snatcher or worse, but if you two are secure in your relationship you can consider that THEIR problem, not yours or his.
Good luck
Phil
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