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writes:Not Sure what to think , We had been dating for almost three years when we broke up 3.5 weeks ago. He had decided he wasn't ready for a commitment, one because he was in major debt and two because at 36 had to move back home with his parents in order to pay his debt off. He sends most of his paychecck to this task. I also make 2.5 times what he makes. The funny part is his parents think I am a gold digger and only want him for his money , ( cracks me up )I have never cared about the money , I have always felt you share what you have with the ones you love, and give genorously to charities . I do admire the commitment to getting out of debt.Through our lines of work we occasional run into each other when we do he fawns all over me ,tells me he misses me and still loves me, he has not closed the door on us and doesn't know what the future holds. However he can't regret the break up or he will be back with me in a blink of an eye.He asked me out for dinner and movie (which is tonight) I agreed , he still fawning on me when he sees me at work . The confusing part is when I have texted or called him he wont reply for days .I'm confused to what that is all about . All this said is there a future or is just him trying to wean himself from me . I am very confused , I love him greatly and miss him more than I could ever express.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): Sometimes when we like a person, we just want to spend the rest of our time with him without any commitment.
But to men, they are scare of starting with close relationship but ended up with commitment.
Men scare of responsibilites, men worries of duties.
Is not to say you are pushing him to much, is just to said that he is selfish and ego.
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (24 August 2010):
 I guess that's your answer. He probably feels he is not worthy of being with you because by being with you he does not feel good about himself, and that's why he is pushing you away.
I am not sure if there is anything you can do to change that.
Some men feel they need to be the providers to feel good about themselves and in your case, he can't accomplish that. So the best way to fix that is to push you away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was and am wanting more than just dating . Do I want marriage nah ..,not at this time . The money might be more of the issue. I enjoy the finer things and take care of all my own high maintance needs . Like I said earlier I don't mind sharing all I have with the ones I care about .
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reader, answerfromtheheart +, writes (23 August 2010):
Are you looking for a commitment? Would you want to keep being with him even though he cannot offer you any? Just because you enjoy his company?
If your answer is yes, then I don't understand why he chose to end the relationship.
I know that men's egos get hurt if they cannot be the provider or be better than their woman. You seem to be making more money and be in a better financial state that he is, that would make a man insecure and uncomfortable.
But if you are not looking for anything from him other than his love and companionship, then I don't understand why he chose to end the relationship.
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