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writes:So my girlfriend of four years told me she needed some space from me to fix some personal issues. She also told me that we need to work on our communication along with several other things. Nothing too major though. I noticed that she was acting different for about two weeks prior. I hadn't really seen her much because I was working and she has been hanging out with her new set of friends. I was out of town for my uncles funeral for about a week as well. When I got back I thought it was weird she didn't want o hang that night. The following night she told me what's up. I'm all for space and stuff but a series of events happened that are weird. The sat before I left town she ditched me and went out with these friends. She said she would be over later that night. I'm pretty happy go lucky so I didn't think much of it. Woke up at 530am and she wasn't there. Called her and she was taking her make up off in the living room bathroom. She said she didn't want to wake me up. It was just out of character for her. Of course I'm heart broken right now so I decide to go to the bar across the street and have some beers and check out the scenery. Turns out her friends were there. They don't even live close by. I decided to confront them about 8 or 9 beers in. Basically, the one friend just broke up with her boyfriend of four years and everything she said was almost the exact same thing my girlfriend said. Now I dontthink she would ever cheat on me but it seems like this girl wants someone else to be single with her if that makes sense. I called her yesterday and she didn't answer. I left her a voicemail saying that I've been thinking about her alot and I wanted to make sure she was ok. One more thing. Her and my step mom don't really talk that much which is a big deal. My ex thinks my mom should be the one to make all the moves on their bonding and my mom thinks the exact opposite. They have a very similar personality. If this helps in your response: I'm 24 and she's 23. I'm college educated and she's not. My family is wealthy and hers is not so much. She also has not really ever had any close friends except me. I don't want to blow her phone up but I miss her really bad. I've had a broken heart before and I hate the way it feels. I don't want to lose another one.
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reader, CAB85 +, writes (25 June 2010):
CAB85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not really worried about getting a new girl or anything. I can easily find another one. I am decent looking, make good money for my age, have morals and standards, beleve in god, and drive a nice car. It just sucks when you can't get what you want. It's really just the waiting around for a final answer that is killing me.
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reader, CAB85 +, writes (25 June 2010):
CAB85 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not really worried about getting a new girl or anything. I can easily find another one. I am decent looking, make good money for my age, have morals and standards, beleve in god, and drive a nice car. It just sucks when you can't get what you want. It's really just the waiting around for a final answer that is killing me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): A girl asking you for a little space or taking a break for a short time is an easy way for her to end the relationship.All you can (and MUST) do is give her the space that she needs. You need to start moving on yourself as tough as it may be. Go out and meet some new interesting girls, while you are on a break. If it is meant to happen then you will get back together again effortlessly. If you have to work hard to make the relationship last then it will likely fail.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (25 June 2010):
 I'm a little fuzzy on your story, but it sounds like she's just excited to have new friends, since you say she's never really had close friends before.
It may be out of character for her to come home so late, but remmeber that she left before her friends do. She probably was just hesitant to cut the night short, but did it eventually.
Since she is making friends now, you should expect to see less of her, however you need to have a conversation with her about making plans with you, and making plans with them. She should not be ditching out on you for them. Tell her your glad she is making friends, but you'd appreciate it if she could seperate the plans better, and maybe allow you to hang out with her and her friends sometimes, that way you can meet the other people she cares about. She's right about one thing.. she DOES need to work on her communication. Lol.
Try not to worry. Just give her the space she's asking for and hope that she comes out of this friend trance.
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