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writes:I recently met a guy who seemed really great and like he was exactly what I was looking for... he even took my number when I said that "I don't call people". But when he called me, I wasn't home, and he didn't leave his number. I have no way to get back to him and he hasn't called back. Should I forget him?Also, my ex boyfriend has been hanging around and he said that he wanted to see me to catch up on Sunday. I told him to call midweek to confirm or I wouldn't come. He still hasn't called and it's almost Sunday. Maybe he just forgot. Should I go even if he doesn't call?I'm so afraid of being alone and so lonely. What if I have too many rules for guys and make it too hard for them? Should I go easier on them? I'm lonely and I want a boyfriend or SOMETHING
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYo dude... he's not my boyfriend, he's my ex boyfriend, and I told him to confirm because he's an unreliable alcoholic mess and I have no faith in him, and I'm insanely busy... I told him that I'd be there if he confirmed.
I don't call guys because chasing guys is a perfect way to have guys treat you like shit. It's not mistreating him, it's just making sure that he doesn't take me for granted. Or do you think it would be better to run after him, have sex right away, beg him to stay with me, get turned into a booty call, and then get completely dumped?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 I think I have spotted your problem. You know, it begins when you mistreat people ("I don't call people"), don't take the guy's number, and complain that, since he doesn't call back, you should forget about him. You're not really interested in this guy. Particularly when your boyfriend is "hanging around". I think not being interested is a good way not to end up with someone who is interested in you.
Then, there is something I don't understand. You told your boyfriend to confirm midweek of you wouldn't be there on Sunday. Unless you've been debating the budget stuff with Republicans and Democrats, you're giving yourself too much importance. I'm not surprised he hasn't called. If I were him, I would think something like "Can't she just say whether she'll be there or not?".
I think you don't want a boyfriend. Maybe you do want "something", but that you need to define.
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reader, banditsmom1124  +, writes (30 July 2011):
 nope your doing what you need to do to make guys respect you!!! i understand youre lonely but if your too available guys end up treating you like crap!
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