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*iceguy07
writes:Ok so i have a problem arising and I also have a seperate question for relationship veterans. So my first issue is taking place in the bedroom. We are both working and going to class so our time together outside of class is limited. But lately things have been mechanical. We get together, maybe eat something watch tv and have sex. We have been together for almost 11 months. But when i mention something new to try that only focuses on sex she gets mad becuase she says all i think about is sex. And then when i tell her that one day i will surprise her with a romantic set up she tells me she does not like all that romantic stuff. Now this is part my fault too for letting things become mechanical. But tonight we were beginning to get intimate and i made a few not so smooth moves (i.e. bumping heads etc) she comes out with i am the most unsexiest person ever. So i blocked that out and tried to keep going but then she was set on just pleasuring me and thats it. I did not have condoms so i said i can still please her orally and manually. But she wanted nothing from me cuz she would only end up wanting sex. So i lost my erection and i turned on the tv and then she was mad and wanted to go home so i took her home. Things have been mechanical for about a few months and nothing has ever been said til tonight. What can i do to bring back the flame and is what she said (me being the most unsexiest person ever) while we are trying to get intimate, something i should be infuriated about? I am irate with her comment and i almost just wanted to say go find someone else but i bit my tongue. Lately i find myself wanting something else but i love her and things are great, we have broken up twice during this 10 month and some odd day span for a total of 6 days. Advice is greatly appreciated. Thank You
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reader, niceguy07 +, writes (16 October 2007):
niceguy07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your advice...maybe we are just not meant fot one nother....i have been thinkin about that... i will update the situation once i talk withb her. to be honest i do not see myself fixinf this thing again, i am young and i dont feel sex should be an issue for me...i will update thought thank young again
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): maybe you two just need sometime away from each other.Maybe she will appreciate you a little more but you both should talk about it first. Then gradually you can ask her out on a date and take it slowly again. It sounds to me that it's just frustration and maybe fatigue.
Maybe you should take her to the movies or a walk on the beach. You would know her so, you can decide what it's going to be. All woman like romance even her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): Wait.. she wanted to please you and wanted nothing in return and in response you turned on the TV?
Sounds like you are the one in the wrong with this particular fight.
As for your whole relationship... You've been going out for a very short time and you've already broken up twice... It might be time to realize that you're just not compatible.
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