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writes:So ive had a very complicated romantic history lately... i dated a guy off and on since 2010 (currently not together) we had a child together and moved into an apartment this year after a few months we split up because he seriously miss treated me and what ever else i started to date a guy i previously dated (while me and babydaddy were split up last year) and now im dating last year guy and still living with baby daddy without any other places to live, and im conflicted by feelings for baby daddy, i question my feelings for last year guy, whenever im not with him (even when im with him i still slightly question) or if we havent just had sex, what does this mean? that my feelings arent exactly what ive thought? is he just a "bandaid"? Or is this just something i could be afraid of? because of the fact that it isnt easy? Please help in what ever way, it would be much appreciated.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (27 June 2013):
Hi there. When you started dating this other guy who you used to go out with, it seemed convenient, and you were not alone anymore.
Sometimes, it feels as if it is better to have someone, than to feel lonely.
Unfortunately though, it can come to a time where you start to question why you are with that person, in the first place.
And really, it seems that you are already having these doubts yourself, now.
When you met up with this guy from your past, it came in handy, as there was someone there for a bit of company, and so it made you feel less lonely.
But even disregarding this, there will always be the emotional bond between you and your baby's father, no matter who else you might meet.
And because of this, you may be starting to feel like you are only using this other guy.
Not intentionally of course, it only feels that way to you.
Because, your true feelings of love, are probably for the baby's father, and not this other guy from your past.
Even though you have split up with the baby's father, you will always have that bond and so he will most likely want to be a part of the baby's life, and so you are going to see each other on a regular basis, anyway.
And with more time passing, you might start to rebuild your relationship again, with the baby's father.
It is possible.
First of all though, you do need to decide what you want from the father of your child - as far as commitment is concerned.
He will need to financially support you, and hopefully he will still do that, even if you are not living together.
You probably just need to decide what you want for yourself out of life, because having a baby does change everything, that's for sure.
So it is kind of a big picture look at things, that you need.
Plus, you might also want to think about furthering your education, somewhere down the track.
I am just trying to cover all bases here, of some of the things that you will have to consider, regards your own future.
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