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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:The most senior staff in my child's school has a crush on me. The attraction is mutual. Please don't ask me ' how do I know as I have passed that stage. The signs were so obvious i,e there was one or two things that he did that was unprofessional at the start. I guess it was the phase where some people express their attraction. There have been parents gossiping; I avoid talking to them now. It has been two years that I did not speak to him (as in a conversation) as I gets tongue-tied and nervous. Whenever there were occasions we bumped into each other, he has tried to ask me a few one or two questions which I answered. That was it! Yes we are both married and I understand everything about having boundaries, that all this is temporary, not to feed on your crush... I got my head around all this. This is the reason why I thought not talking to him (having read that somewhere) that it is best not to engage conversation with him until the crush that I have goes away. He did not seem to be keen on that as he was attempting to try to get me to talk ( making appearance) - he is probably thinking that I need to talk to him at least professionally or I guess he is thinking that if we talk, then things will clear away. That is what I need help with- I get very nervous to talk. My questions is Do I keep not trying to talk to him this coming year until the crush fades away? Or Do I talk to him (which is what he wants)? It seems to me that sometimes he is rude to me and he does not greet me. I am at the stage where I do not bother sometimes to be honest as I cannot do it. I just ignore him. Would talking to each other help? And if it would, how do I do that as I gets tongue-tied? To be honest I have given up on attempting to ask a question as I feel it is silly now. Sometimes he has been rude to me and sometimes he has been flirtatious.To be honest, I feel like the crush is fading away ...but not completely...
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reader, kenny  +, writes (14 August 2023):
 Unlike love the feeling of a crush or lust are often short lived and often just dissipate of their own accord.
You know this is wrong, he knows this is wrong, everyone reading this post knows its wrong.
This will just lead to huge complications for you and everyone.
Forget about this and let these feelings fade before people get hurt.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 August 2023):
 I agree, ask your hubby! I BET he would LOVE to weigh in on this...
Also, if he (and maybe you too) was SO inappropriate that rumors started you should have shut that down ASAP.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (13 August 2023):
 Why don't you discuss it with your husband? I am sure, as soon as he knows and your marriage is in danger, your "crush" will fade.
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