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writes:I met a guy online about a year ago and we have seen each other 3X in the past year. He lives about a 2hour flight away from me but we have only managed to see each other a few times.I wouldn't say we are dating but we text almost everyday and chat on the phone once a week. But, after all this time I am still unsure of my feelings for him. I like him and think he is fun but sometimes he is so immature (10 years younger) and we are total opposites. It drives me crazy. But, when I don't hear from him I get anxious and miss him. I think he feels the same way about me.Do you think because we don't actually spend "real" time together that I could be building him up in my head? I worry that when I see him again that my "idea of him" and the reality will be off...and I won't like him anymore. I also find myself thinking of him alot, wanting to share stories of my day, etc. I guess I also feel that he is not like any guy I have ever dated nor the type of guy I would ever see myself with. BUT, there is some sort of attraction. Could it be that I am lonely and he is the only guy that is giving me attention in many, many years?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (6 April 2011):
 Your feelings for this guy are completely normal and justified. You haven't had any male attention for many years, so you like it when this man is there for you.
You don't want to let him go because he's your only "friend", someone whom you can talk to and have some kind of a release. However, you also know that if you do get to know him better personally after you spend "real" time together, you will snap out of this "attraction".You know that he's not the "one" because of the immaturity and the opposite personality. With your age and maturity, you've seen how the world works and you know exactly thats what's going to happen with this guy.
I would say that keep him as a friend, let him carry on with his life, this attraction that you feel is that little something stirring within you after all these years. Its nice to have the attention of a guy and you're enjoying that.
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