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writes: I am an 18 year old female and I am kind of seeing a 27 year old guy. Is this age gap too big? And how do I tell my parents...they would kill me! Is he only after sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2005): I was 19 and my guy 26 when we finally got together.The age difference isn't that bad, but I still have friends telling me that my guy is only after sex. I honestly believe this to be far from the truth. I can see if you and your guy were like 11, 15, 20+ years apart in age, but it is possible that you and he do have quite a bit in common, or just know that you want the same things in life. It's a known fact that women mature a whole lot more quickly than men, so take that and run with it. I did, and even though I waiver in my decision to be with my guy sometimes, he always keeps me strong and working hard to keep our relationship. Because he's finally reached a point in his life where he knows what he wants, and by chance found it (in me, I guess) he's not going to let go. But I don't know about you. Just because your guy is 27 doesn't mean he's quite there yet. Just take your time to figure him out. Does he pressure you for sex? Always suggesting it? Threatening to leave you if he doesn't get what he wants? If he's not doing any of these things or anything else in the negative, your guy just might really want you, the WHOLE PACKAGE YOU! Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2005): I actually am having the same problem. Everyone keeps telling me that seeing a 28 year old when I am 19 is a bad idea. But I actually want to see where it goes. Its also very complicated, he works with me, is good friends with my family, and he asks what I want to do. I don't know what to do. Ultimately I think you should follow your heart, go for it, if it doesn't work out, at least you've learned from it.
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reader, 81605slygurl +, writes (17 August 2005):
That depends. you'll only know after he respects your decisions to wait for you in terms of if you don't want to have sex yet. Also some couples have a big age gap, so it also depends from couple to couple. If you're mature for your age and he's willing to be with you through thick and thin then what's the problem?
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reader, Tabbie +, writes (17 August 2005):
No I do not think so.. I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 21.. and now I'm 19 and hes 25.. he was a close family friend tho, so I dont know how your parents will react.. because mine had a problem with it at first.. but you should have your guy sit down and talk to your parents about it together.. and if he wines and says he dosent want to then I would say he just wants sex. But if he does truly care for you then it can work out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2005): I don't think so - I'm 21 and my bf is 35 so i'm concerned about that age difference.
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