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writes:I have been living with a couple of girl room mates or should i say house mates as we do not share the same rooms for a while now.I initially found nothing attractive about them but recently, one of them has been catching my eyes and attentions.To cut the long story short, it started with hugs and then pecks and then she began sitting on my laps (I made the move of course!).The first few times she did, it was calm and innocent but i tried taking it further by grabbing her backside on another occasion and she reacted and left my laps.The thing is since then, she has been back on my laps a few more times and I run my hands over her back and sides and hair and thighs, basically touching and feeling her with the exception of her genitals of course for risk of a repeat of the last time.Now I am clearly attracted to her and would give her the D if she said the word but I have heard that this is a bad!! idea.What do you guys think? Should I keep trying? (If yes please include a suggestion of what to do next?) Thanking you :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 April 2013):
 HORRIBLE IDEA....
do not do it.
you have to live in the house together and if it doesn't work out one of you will want to or have to move.
I would not let her sit in your lap either. She's wrong to tease you like that.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (8 April 2013):
 I'd say not to move forward, but I get the impression that you're here looking for validation.I wouldn't be against it if there weren't other housemates, but I feel like you getting dirty with this girl will create an uncomfortable situation for the other girls. It sounds like your interest is purely sexual as opposed to romantic, and that may make you seem a bit more...predatory, for lack of better word, to your roommates.And then there's of course the whole scenario of you and this girl falling out of favor with each other. What then? A lot of awkwardness and discomfort, that's what.But, like I said, you're a grown man who is going to do exactly what pleases you
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (8 April 2013):
 Yes, I think this is bad news. It's just begging for drama.
What happens if you sleep together and then either you or her want more and the other doesn't? What about if the sex is really terrible and awkward and then you're stuck not only seeing each other in the morning, but every morning until one of your moves out? What happens when you want to start seeing someone new and she's not too happy about it? Or, what happens if she starts seeing someone new and you walk into some girl talk where she goes on about how the new guy is the best she's ever had, makes all the guys she's been with look like pathetically endowed peasants?
Think about it. Usually if you have sex with a girl then you get some space from her afterward. You can take things nice and slow. Let things evolve naturally.
But you're LIVING TOGETHER. If you add sex, you are adding in potential disaster. Because you're forced to advance your relationship forward... afterall, every night you're going to come home - and she's there. Every morning you'll wake up - she'll be there.
I'm sure that the temptation is even greater for you both because you recognize that it's a bad idea and "we shouldn't". That makes it that much more forbidden and exiting. But seriously. Think about the morning... morningS... after.
Best of luck!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2013): This is such a bad idea. You are using her for the convenience and claiming you are attracted. You're going to regret this; because you're thinking that you don't have to start a meaningful relationship. You have the all the perks right at your finger-tips.People do get lonely and vulnerable. She has a craving for affection and she reached out to you. However; there will come a point in time that your advances may be seen for what they really are. You're taking advantage of her. She's just testing the waters to see if you feel anything other than a rise in your pants.I think you two need to cool it off. If you want to start something; how about taking her out and having some fun.Get to know her on different a level, before going for the gold. I know, most guys would say go for it. Play now, pay later my friend!Chances are, things will not work out; because it's really nothing but a couple of adults horny for each other. You'll then decide you want to see other women; she will respond with jealousy and really feel used. Then you may be writing another post asking what to do about that.Keep your hands to yourself and respect her as your roommate. Things might get complicated, if you put your D where it doesn't belong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2013): Lifes too short, go for it, she could be the love of your life, would you let that go for risk of losing a lease? I wouldnt, we arent here for a long time, make the most of your hours on this planet my friend.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 April 2013):
 It will be a bad idea when one of you falls for the other, the relationship doesn't work out and you are stuck with each other, possibly watching her bang someone else or her watching you do that to someone else, until the lease ends. The other girls you don't find attractive will have a problem with this also. They might get jealous and try to boycott you and the other girl.
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