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writes:Two guys who r kool like the same chick! They all hang out and become good friends! The chick likes guyA and has a casual relationship with guyA but guy B won't give up!Guy B tells the chick all of guy A's bizz one night while having drinks and she's cryn on his shoulder abt the problems her and guyA are having! She's hurt, drunk and goes home. GuyB shows up at her house univited grabs her and starts to make out with her so they sleep together! Who's wrong? The next few wks she won't return calls or even acknowledge guyB because she feels he took advantage of her! Did he? She starts to speak to guyB again and tells him how she feels abt them sleeping together! But starts to sleep wit guyB on a regular as a get back to his friend guyA! Is she wrong and why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo true! And thanks!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Yeah, friends with benefits never work someone always has feelings for the other and it always seems to be the girl. Women aren't emotionally cut out for friends with benefits. Guy A is toying with her and she's letting him..Guy B was just a side item. Good for her moving away from this sex, lies, and drama..She'll get over him eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk guyB got mad when she would no longer sleep with him and told guyA! GuyA asked her and she denied sleeping with guyB! GuyA said if they did sleep together there would b no luv loss because they are grown and him and her were not together! GuyA also said they both were wrong if it happened because guyB knew they were more then FWB and she did to?! GuyA said him and her would be done if she did sleep with guyB, guyA also begins to tell her all of guyB's bizz in a on the low level! She's never told one wat the other has told her but can clearly see neither is the others friend! She will go months and months(9months, twice in the last 4 years) not speaking to guyA or seeing him but when she does decided to see or talk to him again they still sleep together and it never fails for him to bring the guyB situation up! He still claims to luv her and says she always gets mad and runs when she can't have her way about things! All she wanted was a commitment from him in the first place! But nevertheless she did decide 2 months ago that it was time to move on so she says and leave that situation in the past! Yet she still thinks abt him and still has a lot of luv him!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Ah I see the missing piece to the puzzle...If he didnt tell up front that this was nothing but FWBs then he is the one in the wrong. However she shouldnt sleep with B out of spite to A its just not fair to B. I dont think A really cares if there nothing but FWBs. There's just a lot of spite, sex, and drama going on here. Start by cutting out the drama, it will make her life a lil more simple. Ur friend needs to move on from both A and B and find herself a C.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe relatioship with guyA according to him was nothing more then friends with benefits, she thought it was more until guyB told wat guyA had told him in regards to them! GuyA was seeing other chicks and living with the mother of his child but yet told her he was unhappy and moving out even went so far to tell her he loved her. She bent over backwards for guyA even when he was truly being a jerk to her! When she tried to move on there he was,then to hear his buddy(guyB) say he said they were nothing, was a hard blow! She kept sleeping with guyB because she wanted to hurt guyA as much as he had hurt her!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 August 2010):
Im on team Guy A. Let me try to keep this straight, define casual relationship with Guy A..Are we talking in terms of friends with benefits or is this an actual relationship exclusive bf and gf? Ur friend seems to attract drama or enjoys it one of the two. Im going to assume this is an actual relationship with A, she made a mistake by having word vomit well drunk and spilling her problems to B. But hey the truth often comes out when were drunk, and we've all done it at least once, so who am I to judge her on that? In addition, B picked up on her vulnerable state hence why he dropped by uninvited. However I dont think B took advantage of her I think she knew what she was doing bc why would she continue to sleep with him after the fact? She slept with him so she did ultimately cheat on A. Im confused as to why ur friend ignored B but now she's doing him again to get back at A? What did A do? She's wrong for cheating on A, and continuing to sleep with B, people need to take care of their business first instead of causing more drama.
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