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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well me and my girlfriend have been together for about 10 months. Just recently I heard from her aunt that she has a lying problem not just with me but her family. Her aunt told me that she hasnt had a job since we have been together, altho she said she had 2 of them. There were also a couple other lies that were still shocking but not as important. I confronted her, tears in my eyes asking her why she lied to me. She started crying and told me that she didnt want to lose me because she didnt have a job. She also stole 100 bucks from her disabled grandma just so she could buy me a fishing license which I had no clue about. A couple days later after calming down from that, the same aunt told me that she saw on her computer that she made a online dating account and secret facebook account to talk to other guys without my knowledge. She never officially cheated tho has far as her aunt and me know. I was royally pissed now, and called her about it. She has crying so bad from that she could hardly breath. She told me that she signed up for those sites because she wanted to see what else was out there and she thought I was gonna leave her. She then told me crying she loved me, that I was the best thing she had and that she would promise she would never do it again. He have been trying to calm each other down. She has been throwing up anything she eats because she is so distraught Do any of you think I should let time take its course and try to work it out, or just give up and leave her.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 I'd say ,leave her. She sounds very messed up, either she has an unbelievable sense of entitlement that suggests her to do whatever feels good in the moment ( stealing from a disabled grandma ? ) and then deal with the consequences by pushing hard the drama pedal ( tears sobs and throwing up... ) or, she really has mental/psychological problems and she needs serious professional help.
But you are not a therapist, not a shrink, you are just a guy that wants to date , and who needs and deserves a healthy relationship and a sincere partner.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (19 May 2012):
 It is very hard to have a relationship when you can't trust each other. It might be best to walk away from this relationship, she does sound like a troubled girl, and there isn't much that you can do to help her when she lies to you. Don't worry about her, the crying is probably only for your benefit, to make you stay. You should be having fun at your age, not being messed about as you are. Good luck.
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