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writes: Hello. hmmm well where do i start, ok well i've known this girl for about 10yrs off and on, when i first met her she had just hooked up with a girl i knows' older brother. We all lived in a flat together. I started noticing that she had a crush on me and i capitalized on it once or twice, we met up away from the flat and hooked up quite passionatly. after parking our cars up before walking up to the flat she'd always grab me and kiss me one last time moments before walking inside to her boyfriend. he'd get up and go to work earlier than anyone else and when he did she would often slip into my bed for a cuddle. i moved on with my life after 6mths or so of living together and her and her boyfriend got a house and had kids. not to say i didnt keep completely out of touch i would still visit them both on occasion but as far as i could see me and her were done. both kinda just got over it... her boyfriend and i had a falling out over something completely different and i lost contact all together. some years later they got married (after being together 9yrs), 3mths after the wedding she had had enough of doing nothing (hes antisocial) and left him. having difficulties in my own relationship break up i turned and she was there. We really hit it off, she told me how she needed to rebound and i told her i was in the same boat, we slept together but because it was just a week or so since my relationship had ended i couldnt get into the swing of things and my performance was pittiful to say the least. i didnt/couldnt even finish because i had my ex who ive got a child too on my mind and i hadnt dealt with those feelings at that point in time. so i put on my clothes and got out of there and got back to my ex and tried to make the most of a bad situation and try with family life with my ex. after a year of struggling on i decided it was time for me to get out of the relationship i was in for my own sanity and for the sake of my son. Now lonely i look around and there she is again. only this time shes with a new man, a looser, she has her kids week on week off. Week with the kids she wants me around or is around at my place and her mans nowhere to be seen. Week without the kids her boyfriend is around, shes at his or is picking him up etc etc... I've been flirtatous and have made lewd comments which always make her giggle. I kinda feel like im waiting for them to break up but dont want to wait. Part of me is saying why are you waiting? if she wanted to be with me she'd break up with him...? but part of me is telling me after 10yrs of knowing her, i really like her and think she could be the one...? thing is SHES GOT A BOYFRIEND!!! HELP!
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reader, Johnnz +, writes (8 March 2012):
Johnnz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe've only had sex or anything close to it on the one occasion
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2012): "Is she the one for me? But she has a boyfriend!"
Then she isn't the one for you.
Yet.
If she frees herself of her current obligations honorably and with dignity and respect for all parties concerned, then very possibly.
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (7 March 2012):
 You've already told yourself why you two aren't together. She's not willing to break off her current relationship and is much happier just having affairs with you.You need to stop biting on the bait and falling into her every time you feel bad and need somewhere to turn to. You're both using each other as means for sex and it's not going to do you or your partners any good whatsoever.If you really have feelings for her then you need to tell her that you want to be with her properly. If she doesn't agree or anything then stop this mindless sex. If she agrees and says she will finish with her current boyfriend then wait until she has before you two sleep together again.Otherwise you need to start moving on and not turning back to the past when you feel everything has gone wrong. But it does sound like you have genuine feelings for her and you must tell her to avoid hurting anyone else. Plus it must be confusing the hell out the kids, they need a stable home life. Not a mother who's promiscuity interferes with it, you two could probably offer that stability if you got together and that is exactly what they need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2012): Well its up to you but I would never trust her, would not consider her relationship material.Only a fling type thing and no more than that.She has no morals what so ever.
If thats what you want in a woman,go for it, but I think she would just use you for a while,till she was bored,then move on.
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