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writes:Hi Everyone,I have been dating this girl (# 1) (28 years old) for 8 months. Months ago she basically said only friend status. Days later from that she went on vacation and I met another women. I dated her (lets call her # 2) for a couple months and she moved away. #1 new all about her. I still kept in touch with #1 while with # 2. I started seeing #1 more frequently. She is not one to talk about feelings. She's been burnt a few times and said she's in no rush.Is she Testing Me:Last week Wed night she kinda blew me off. Said she was tired. Then Thursday night the same thing. Friday came and I thought to myself, Is she trying to get a harsh reaction from me? since where just dating I don't think I can be harsh about it. I finally texted her in the afternoon(Friday) and did not even mention the past two nights. Like it never happened. Is that the correct response from me?Friday night (Halloween) she stayed over for the first time. No sex .. But everything else. DId she stay over Friday because I did not respond harsh to the wed,thurs blow off?Thursday- a Week later she sent me a link with all her pictures from Halloween. There was a picture from last Wed night (when she blew me off and said she was not going out) SHe was dressed up with friends.Again, she knows I remember this. Is she testing me? Do I say nothing?Thanks for all the helpIm 31 years old
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Frankly, she sounds simply rude. A basic lack of courtesy is not something that you're going to be able to fix. And it sounds like she doesn't care to fix it herself. So I have to agree with the other posters and recommend that you stop treating her as a girlfriend or potential girlfriend.
Maybe she is testing you, but I fail to see what a good outcome would be for you. If she thinks she can treat you like this now, just imagine how rude she could be when you're firmly on the hook. You might consider giving her a dose of her own medicine, but I think that would just lower you to her level.
She might just be one of those women who like attention and wamt a man to desire them, but have no intention of entering a relationship with them. There are women out there who don't play games like this and I think you should go find one. Good luck!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (6 November 2008):
 Hello,Yes, Passionatelynumb and Mandy have answered this for you. I'm sorry for you that I have to agree too. You will drive yourself mad with trying to be with her and you never will. Either friends or No Contact I'm afraid. xxx
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reader, passionatelynumb +, writes (6 November 2008):
 I hate to say this, but she's playing you like a fiddle.
I dated a girl like this. It was a horrible experience. She ended up stringing me along for a while before I finally gave up on her. She eventually started a relationship with one of my friends, but it ended after she cheated on him.
You deserve someone who actually wants to be with you. This girl sounds like she just enjoys manipulating guys.
Move on. You'll find someone much, much better. I promise.
If you try to be friends with her. She'll only string you along further. She'll give you just enough to keep you following her around like a lost puppy dog.
I've been there man. You'll be much better and wiser when your head clears and you realize that being strung along like this is poison for your soul.
Just remember how frustrating this has been, and keep that in mind when you are dating others. You'd never want to put anyone through what this girl has put you through.
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reader, Mandy7777 +, writes (6 November 2008):
Take her at her word....She just wants to be friends, and you are trying to pursue a relationship....Stop trying and just be friends...Look elsewhere for anything more serious or you will drive yourself crazy....
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