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writes:A girl I am talking to said the other day that I am "good long term boyfriend material" but anytime she gets out of a long term relationship her "next one has always been really short". She says she wants to date me but does not want it to be a short term thing but a long term relationship instead.Is she:-Trying to let me down easy so she can back out of the situation easy (lying to me or leading me on)-Possibly looking for a rebound relationship (although maybe not with me?)or-Actually mean what she says.Based on my past experiences I would say the first option but I know that is the past and she is not "those girls". Also how should I handle this? I really like her and don't want to just say "screw it" to the situation if there is the possibility of a relationship but at the same time I don't want to be some sort of rebound and I definitely do not want to be lied to and led on (which has been EVERY girl I have ever talked to). I can understand her being concerned about the past experiences (I am as well, hence my feelings in the previous sentence). I want a long term relationship with her as well (and I did tell her that). Also it seems that since this conversation we do not text as much and I usually get one word replies or dead end replies (which should be a sign right there) but she does have work and school. Any thoughts/opinions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): you can never really truly know what people think or want its life..it sucks
personally my thoughts is take your time..if she likes you ..she will take the time. tell her your not to ready to jump things yet so keep hanging out and seeing each other and have fun. If she likes you she will wait and work on things somewhat ..I dont mean wait a year or something but maybe a month or so .. maybe somemore ... then you may come to a diffrent conclusion:)
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