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writes:I started going out with my best friend after we got very friendly, I knew I was gay, but she wasn't. Still after 8 months she insists that she is still straight. I want to know where I stand. I don't know if she is with me becasue she doesn't want me to be with anyone else or it's just our whole best friend thing gone too far. Is she straight? Or indenial? What shall I do?
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reader, Confessions Of A Broken Heart  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Maybe This is gonna sound crzy but is scared of losing you...(My Ex Did The Same).....Does she know its a relotionship? I wish you all the best *Panda hugz Nd Kisses) Yuki...X
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reader, MyBrutalRomance-x +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Hii x
Maybe your friend is embarrassed to admitt she is bisexual or lesbian or she may just be confused about her feelings.
Try asking her what sexuality is and ask her whether she's confident enough in showing it.
Whatever you do, dont pressure her into anything. Make sure she's comfortable first.
Best of luck.
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reader, l.via  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Sexuality is a fluid concept and it changes during a lifetime. Your friend seems to be unwilling to accept being bisexual or lesbian at this time. Personally, I don't think that's much of a problem. Unfortunately, there's a lot of stigma for non-traditional sexualities, so labeling yourself as bi or gay seems unnecessarily limiting and uncomfortable. Ask your girlfriend why she does not believe she's bisexual or gay. If she doesn't want to have negative connotations that's one thing, but if she's just going out with you for the novelty of it, then that would be a problem. Since this is at times a dangerous and controversial issue, I wouldn't pressure her to "come out," but I'd strongly encourage you to talk to her about your particular relationship, and ask her what she really thinks of YOU and not her sexuality.
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