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male
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*orey
writes:Okay, here is the long drawn out story.My ex and I were together for 10 months. We broke up in July. She emailed me saying she couldn't be in a relationship with me anymore. We were perfect in the beginning and found out she had been my friend online 5 years before when she lived in Texas and neither of us knew it until we were talking one day...but we both have our problems and neither of us were willing to work on them so it just ended up being too much.I love her and the old cliche stands true..you don't know what you have until it's gone.She went a month without talking to me except private posts to me on her blog (she changed her number)Thena month later she showed up at my house. We started sleeping together again.Then that freaked her out and she went into lets be friends mode. Its difficult for me bec I'm so in love with her but when I finally gave her what she wanted (me not calling all the time, me not coming over all the time, me not acting like we are together) she then has to find something else to be angry about. Her new thing is accusing me of going through her phone (which i have not done). I don't jump at her every whim so it seems like she has to rile me up to prove that i still care.Anyways, one of the reasons we always fought is because she has a strange obsession with this 52 year old child molester (convicted...mind you..twice) at her work. I would say how sick i think he is but she would talk about him CONSTANTLY..and i mean constantly. It caused us to fight.Well now he's at her house a lot and calls her a lot ..he's engaged and his fiance has tried to put a stop to it so now he doesnt tell her. I honestly think he's just trying to be a friend because she does have problems (eating disorder, amphetamine addiction, diabetic and doesnt control her blood sugar) but she takes it another way....and she uses it to try to make me jealous. She says she doesn't but theres a way she says it that i can tell she's trying to rile me up. So i usually let it slide off my back...i try my hardest not to say a thing about him because it pisses her off...even if it really does hurt meSo tuesday i went over to her house because she asked me to..as soon as i walked in she accused me of listening to her phone call (she wasnt even on the phone). I asked who she was even talking to and she got that smile and look on her face when she's talking about that guy...trying to antagonize me about it. I was angry from being accused of something i didnt do and called him a name and then we just fought back and forth..both of us got out of line...it wasn't just one of our faults it was both.So now she won't return my calls, my emails, my texts, nothng. I tried to go to her house but she wasnt home so i left a letter.If she's going to be mad at me and not want me to talk to her i think she at least needs to tell me that. She hasnt said to leave her alone but she wont talk to me. It kills me because i love her and despite her problems I want to be there...it hurts constantly when I think she's mad at me.but it does seem like she's trying to rile me up to prove that i will still get jealous and still love her since I have been acting like i just want to be her friend....this sucksmyself, that guy and a 50 year old lady she works with are her only friends...so i worry about her when i dont hear from her.She deleted me off her blog yesterday but kept the other 3 friends she has (which are MY friends that she no longer likes) so i dont get the sense in that unless she was just trying to get a reaction out of meSo yeah, I'm not sure what the exact question is..maybe some advice on how to handle the situation or how to get her to talk to me..or something
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