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writes:I am in love with a girl that I met 2 yrs ago. She is my best friend and her boyfriend at that time is my friend also. I had to move but stayed in touch with my best friend. She left her boyfriend and moved up to wyoming getting with another guy. I have talked to her over the internet almost everyday. But it has always been just as friends. Then about a week ago she told me she had loved me for a while. Now she wants to get away from her boyfriend in wyoming and she wants to move here with her 2 boys and start a relationship with me. My other friend that was dating her told me that I shouldn't get into one with her as she is lying to me just to use me to get away from her boyfriend now. She is asking me for help to get down here but she knows I would help her out even if she didn't say she loved me. I would just give her money or a place to stay cause she is my friend. I have loved her for a while now but am not one to try and break up anyones relationship. I just don't know if she is just using me like my friend said or if she really loves me. We know each other very well and can talk about anything no matter what. But I am scared that If I get into a relationship she might leave me to just because she is using me. But that would also mean that she would lose my friendship which has gotten very deep with her just as friends nothing else. I am also scared cause I lost my wife 4 years ago and don't want to have my heart broken if she ever did leave me. I saw how she hurt my other friend but is she just trying to use me or is she really in love with me. Please help me with this. I don't want another broken heart
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (18 July 2008):
 Maybe confront your friend about how you feel about this girl, and see how he would feel about it. You obviously don't want to lose your friend, but you shouldn't sacrifice a chance for love because of this issue. At least let your friend know what you are doing before you go into this relationship, but don't ask for permission, it's your life really. Good luck.
Bendy xx
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reader, LavaDragon +, writes (17 July 2008):
LavaDragon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe has been with alot of guys that treat her bad. But I know my friend didn't. Though the one she is with right now just wants her for one thing. I have never been that way with any woman that I have been with. I would rather snuggle. And we are really close to each other. We talk all the time about everything. We have been there for each other thru some rough times as friends. I know I have loved her for a while now just didn't think that she liked me that way herself. Then the other thing is I don't want to lose my friendship with my other friend cause he thinks she is just out to use me. Though he hasn't talked to me for quite a while. I think he is really worried about me but it could be that he is still hurt from their relationship they had together.
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reader, LavaDragon +, writes (17 July 2008):
LavaDragon is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe has been with alot of guys that treat her bad. But I know my friend didn't. Though the one she is with right now just wants her for one thing. I have never been that way with any woman that I have been with. I would rather snuggle. And we are really close to each other. We talk all the time about everything. We have been there for each other thru some rough times as friends. I know I have loved her for a while now just didn't think that she liked me that way herself.
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reader, BendychickP +, writes (17 July 2008):
This may be different from the other relationships this girl has had, as you have been friends for a while. She may have only recently found out she has been in love with you. If you're afraid of getting hurt, take things slowly. Tell her that if she wants to really be with you, then she needs to end it with her boyfriend before she moves onto you. You should probably suggest that she don't move in with you right away. Don't rush things, take things as slowly as your emotions will allow. Good luck with this and I hope things go well for you in the future!
Bendy xx
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