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*uicyjays
writes:Hello,I recently have been hanging out with this girl on whom I am very interested in. She flirts with me constantly (touches me, playfully slaps me, she even sort of bit my shoulder). She gives me her number at work and I told her I'll call her when I get a chance. Instead she called me that night and we hanged out (just talked).The thing is that I am an extremely shy individual when it comes to approaching women, which makes me a little under confident. She knew I liked her obviously. We went out to the bar our second time with her friends (one guy, one girl). Yet again she is all over me, touching, flirting, etc. Our FOREHEADS even touched and I didn't move in for the kiss, I felt like I blew it!Then her friend comes up to me in the bar and says "You like her, don't you?" I said "I'd like to get to know her better." Her friend states that she's seeing another guy, which kind of hit me hard. I smiled, said shit happens and I walked away.I text'd her the next day saying "Hey friend, how's it going?" She never messages back. So today my dog was put down, found out my 19 year old sister was pregnant and my father was dipping into the alcohol again, a horrible shitastic day. I give her a call, she can tell I'm stressed to the max and I vented to her. She talked to me and it led to me saying to her "Look, I'm a really shy guy when it comes to women and I wanted to let you know I do like you, and I'd like to get to know you better, do you want to go on a date?"I then said to her I felt like a fool for asking her on a date while she's seeing another guy and she stated that she's not really going out with him (heh). She then said "I.. uhh... im not really looking for anything right now." She was very nice on the phone, but she never stated that she liked me back and she said never said "Let's just be friends." She instantly started to studder her words, its as if she didn't know what to say. I asks if she wants to hang out but she said shes busy all week (She went all detailed.. wed is girls night, thurs shes wrapping presents, fri and sat she works with me in the restaurant in night and has to work on sat morning, sun shes going snowboarding). I'm really confused by this girl. I know I shouldn't of put all that pressure on her saying I like her and asking her out on a date (which she never gave me an answer to, she said she dosen't know). Bad timing since it is Christmas and it seems we're not going to be hanging out til after new years since we're both going on vacation in different places.
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Ahh my dear friend, you are too young and inexperienced to really see how manipulative women can be if they want to. You can be sure you lost this girl. Even if she had the slightest interest, once you revealed your true, honest feelings i guarantee she lost any possible interest. Next time try not to be so nice and kind. Reveal yourself only if you are 100% that is really interested. And another thing. If a girl wants to go out with you NO MATTER how busy she is, she will make time. Don't be confused bro, just leave! Best of luck!
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reader, DiamondGirlx  +, writes (17 December 2009):
 Hey
I think she just wants to be friends and maybe she just has a flirting habit, by naming everything she has planned for the week is showing that she is trying to think of ways so she wont have to hang out with you, i think she wants to be your friend but thats it. It doesnt seem like its going to go any further with this girl to be honest, if she does start flirting with you again just let it pass over you dont think nothing of it because otherwise you'll be asking yourself the same question again.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (17 December 2009):
 I'm sorry about your day! Shitastic is the word. I hope you got all the bad news you'll get for a very long time and things start looking up as of right now. I would research this girl's availability before getting any more wrapped up in her. If she has recently become single you don't want to end up the rebound guy either! Waiting until after the holidays is probably a smart idea too and I wouldn't take the fact that she's got a ton of plans too personally. Everyone does at this time of year. Just try to hang back (goood thing you're the shy type at this point, lol) and see how she acts around you in a few weeks time. You should be able to read signals from her now that you have let the cat out of the bag. I think that you have done everything right so far. Try not to worry, but to look forward happily. Good luck! Congratulations, uncle!Hope your vacation will be relaxing.
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