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writes:I have liked this girl for a while now, we have got to 3rd base on a number of occasions, however she just sees me as 'a bit of fun'. I asked her to go out with me on a date and she turned me down saying she likes another guy. This guy who she likes happens to be an old friend of mine, although we are not really friends anymore as he has been a right twat to me ever since he found out about me and the girl involved. He gets to 3rd base with her frequently now, the following days after this happens he is a complete d#ck to her and tells all his friends (who have told me), that he doesnt even like her. Then she comes complaining to me about him and then falls back on me, then just as I think I am in there she goes and gets back with him about a week later. This has been going on for about 6 months now and i really like her and don't know what to do. I want to forget about her, but i just cant. Has anyone got any advise or been in the same situation?Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 July 2007):
 Irish49 has said it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Dear, if you know that likes you as a 'bit o fun' and she's dating another guy, then she has been honest with you, hasn't she. So if you have that information and you still like her and you are still dating her, then you have made a choice to allow this, in your life. You are allowing yourself to be 'used' so you own this one. If you don't like this arrangement, then tell her 'bye-bye', instead of tolerating this. The only way to get over her, is to be very strong and prideful, and leave, grieve and heal and that takes no more contact with her and it will take time. Everyone heals at their own pace. Then when you are ready, get out there and date some nice girl who won't treat you this way. You deserve better than what this girl is doing to you...anyone does. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): This is a really bad situation to be in and you are so young as well, I really feel for you.I know it is hard to turn your back on her but you must do that. She clearly likes your friend (who sounds like a complete twat) and feels vulnerable when he rejects her so she comes running to you. You sound like a nice guy and I think you should be a bit more selective, strive for more confidence and stop seeing her, you deserve somebody that treats you really well and sees you for who you are.I'm 100% sure you will find a nice girl quickly, to tell you the truth she sounds quite immature and silly, not really worth the effort. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): She's using you! Have some self-respect and tell her where to go next time she comes running to you. I know it's hard but do you really want to be known as a pushover? Girls won't respect you. Wait until you find someone who likes you.
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