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writes:I've been living with my girlfriend for about a year and a half now. I've been divorced for over 7 years and she's been separated for nearly 3 years but has not pursued divorce. They have no assets together so a divorce shouldn't cost very much. She and her ex just barely get along with each other though, so I don't think she is still interested in him. Besides, she's the one who left him. I've told her I'd like to marry her but she has said that she isn't interested in marriage right now and may never be. I think she may have another guy interested in her too, but she says that she loves me. My question is how to interpret this. Does she really love me? Is she just holding out for something better? I moved in with her and her two daughters, so I could easily leave. I don't know what to do though. We are both in our mid - late 40's.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 From a womans point of view, she may not want to get married again because she has now left one. Is it very important to you that you marry her?. have you any other issues apart from this. She sounds like she has been totally put off getting married again because of the horrid one she was in. She may see not getting divorced as a safety net so that she won't feel like you will cajoul her into another marriage. Give it more time, maybe one day she will feel like she does want to commit fully to you. You are living with her so that must mean that she feels okay with you.
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