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Is she interested or just being friendly?

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Question - (22 June 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 22 June 2011)
A male Australia age 30-35, *lyboysp writes:

There is this girl at work who I like and have a thing for and who i think may have a thing for me, and we both get along well with each other ( said by someone else) , for about a year now. I'd just like other poeple's opinion about the whole thing, given the following

* She occasionally calls me Boo boo,Big Bear Mikey Mike. She also calls me different variations of my name in Italian aswell, which she learnt in school

* She had a boyfriend until 2 months ago. The way i found out about that makes me feel like it was a setup. My friend who let it slip,Dayna and myself were chatting about random tuff, i started walking away to my area, when she said come back, so we could chat a bit more, which i did. Then my friend says how long has it been since you broke up and she says about a month.

* A work friend let slip to her that i like her. However she does not know that i know she knows

* I have kissed her twice on the cheek, which she initiated.

* We sometimes share drinks and food

* She recently (within the last week) asked for my number so she could "show me something", which turned out to be a photo she took of me a few days earlier. I've finally gotten her number aswell, which i've been after for a while

*She initiates most of the physical contact between us. Stuff like hugs, particularly from behind and/or when i'm not expecting it. Sometimes she pokes me and brushes my arm or butt when walking past sometimes. Also she sometimes leans her head on my shoulders. On occassion she will come up behind me and lock arms so we are arm in arm

* We sometimes stare at each other in a good way

* On several occasions she has asked would i still be her friend if she changed her hair colour, or coloured her nails or altered her hair style or something trivial

* On a few occassions over the last few weeks, when we have been alone for a bit at work, she has drawn love hearts on my hand and wrists.

* We almost always ask each other when we will each be next working to see when we are both on.

Having said all this, she is the flirty type, but compared to what i know, i get the "special treatment". Also a few months ago (8-9 months when she was still with her boyfriend), a friend from work took it upon themselves to ask her if there was anything happening between me and her, and apparently she replied is that I am like an older brother to her.

Feel free to ask for more info and thanks for the replies

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A female reader, lovesickchick United Kingdom +, writes (22 June 2011):

To me it sounds as if she does like you, however being referred to as a "big brother" is never a good thing if you like them, when it comes to girls.

Some girls love attention, especially from the opposite sex and it doesn't help that she knows you like her. She could be a very friendly person, but there is only one way you will ever really know how she feels and that is, of course, by asking her.

Bare in mind she has recently come out of a relationship as well. I recommend you flirt with her more and you initiate contact. You have her number, so I suggest texting her too. Her reactions and replies will give some clue as to her feelings towards you. If she replies quite rapidly and shows interest and asks questions, these are all good signs. (However she could take ages to reply as well, "to play it cool")

You should also ask her out, although where, how and when are all up to you to decide. I am going to suggest to not wait to long, as you have already known her over a year and the longer you wait the more you could slip into that friend zone. Plus, you don't want anybody else to snatch her up!

You obviously really like her as you have been analysing everything she says and does towards you. The best advice I can give to you is don't hold back my friend, as you don't want to regret not making a move sooner. What have you got to lose and what have you got to gain?

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