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writes:Is she interested, or am I just too lonely?Ok, let me lay down the ground work. I must be twice her age. and yes I do have problems finding women of my age or any other for that matter. She must be about 25, 6 foot 3, very skinny with a tiny voice. I am none of these thing, and have no idea why she would be interested in me. I kinda have the Joe Pesci look, but I guess some women like that. My observations; She comes by my work almost every day and the ladies I work with think she likes me as well, as she never can decide what to get till I get there, and she always gets the same thing, when she first came in I thought she was so pretty, and I think she could see it in my eyes. She came back a few time and then one day gave me the hard stare for like five to ten seconds of eye contact, no word, just eye contact. I go by her work to say hi, and she walks with me on my way out so we can talk, and the times when she is to busy to walk with me, I look back to see if she is looking, and she is. and same when she leaves my work. sometimes when she comes in and I get busy, the other girls at work say "She is still looking at you" Back ground on me; I grew up in a very abusive house, and I think she has walked in the she shoes, and this would probably answer a lot of questions about this. I have been without any long term relationship for ten years now, so I am weak of heart and spirit, now having lost the rest of my family with the passing of my mother last year, and I am totally alone. so I am sure my judgment is a bit off.
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reader, b2b22 +, writes (29 November 2012):
b2b22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou are all awesome! I appreciate your comments and advice, and hope I can count on you in the future. I must try, even if I get hurt, there is no pain worse than being alone!
Thank you again!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): After my parents divorced my father who was very young looking for his age, met and eventual married his second wife who was nearly 25years younger, so I'm here to say it can happen..They had many a happy time going dancing, and couple things.. Was good to see him happy.However negative turn was as my father turned 70 and his wife 45 yrs, she still wanted to go dancing, my father could not.. And he become very ill diabetes and cardio vascular disease as well gout took its toll on his physical abilities, I'm sorry to say my step mother turned into the wicked witch from the easy, and treated my father horrendously ..So it did not end very favourable however being honest, any marriage can end badly.. But it's worth a thought ..Live for today...
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reader, b2b22 +, writes (28 November 2012):
b2b22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have taken all these things into consideration, and the kids or marriage would not be a problem. I am a very high energy person, and my family has longevity on our side with many members of my family living to their late 90's and keeping all their faculties almost the whole way through. I am very active, and work in a very high paced environment. and I have never had a relationship last more than 6 years.
thank you so much for your insight, and any advice or further comments are appreciated!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 November 2012):
 I agree with KC
but I want to add that even if you don't DATE you could possibly be great friends if you are game for that.
the problem is if you think of her as more than a friend and she does not feel the same way you will be hurt...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): She might be looking at you as a father figure so do bare that in mind. I would gather up your courage and invite her to meet for a coffee, because there is obviously something going on between you. Its just a case of finding out what it is! If you are picking up a vibe that shes had an unhappy life, you might be someone shes drawn to confide in because of the way you appear. With Joe Pesci in mind, you probably appear very cheerful and friendly, approachable. The only way to find out what she is thinking..if anything..is to go and find out. All the best!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 Lets put whether she likes you or not aside. Think about the age difference for a minute. Ok so she's 25, that makes you what, 50? Lets make some assumptions about the typical 25 year old woman. She will have finished her eductation and have a job, but will be thinking about marriage and children in the next 5 years or so. Do you want to get married? Do you want children? How would you feel about being a father at, say 55 years of age? Imagine having to run around after a toddler, playing sports with them....you need an endless amount of energy to run around after a child! There will be plenty of sleepless nights, dirty nappies....are you happy to do that in your mid-late 50's?
You have to consider her in all of this too - when you are 70 she will only be 45, so she will be caring for an elderly person when she is only middle aged and still has a lot of life to live. I know we are thinking WAY ahead here but you cant go into a relationship without thinking about the future, you will only get hurt if you spend a few months together and then realise that she doesnt want to be with someone so much older than her.
If you are ok with the idea of kids, marriage and worrying about your lovely young wife wasting her life caring for an elderly man - then I would actually say yes, she probably does like you. She wouldnt spend so much time coming into your store or walking home with you if she didnt like you. If you want to test if she does like you invite her out for coffee at a weekend just the two of you, or out for a drink after work.
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