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writes:I have discussed with my wife having a threesome. We were watching porn one evening and I asked her if she would prefer mfm or fmf, she said mfm of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. The subject is brought up once in a while.....usually just touched on and dropped. One evening when at a resort, we went to the hot tub. It was only us, then a nice young man joined us. We all had a great conversation and well, afterwards and having had many drinks, she was a wild woman, I suggested I go get the young man from the hot tub. She said no.Another time out, we were going to a place where you bounce from bar to bar, I had a friend (male) meet us that I had had threesomes with including an ex girlfriend. He met us by accident at the first bar, they got along great. At the second bar, she was getting drunk, I had a few and mentioned getting a hotel room. We didn't get one and headed for another bar but..when leaving bar 2 she gave him a kiss on the cheek and held his hand while we walked to bar 3. At bar 3, more drinking and I noticed his hand on her thigh (she was wearing very short shorts) and she was not objecting, so I went to the mens room. When I came back, his one hand was caressing her arm, the other was on her thigh still. She wanted to leave (she was starting to feel ill, too much vodka) so we all left and when it came time to part in the parking lot, she shook his hand, I told her to give him a kiss, she did, I told her to give him a better kiss and she did, we parted.When having sex at home, I told her I noticed his hand on her thigh and thought is was a huge turn on, I also suggested that he may have wanted to join us. She said she wasn't into it, but....she seemed to be thinking of him for she was acting differently while I fucked her.He asked us to meet him at a resort for a special event, drinks and have fun. I told her of his invite, she is acting shy but....is interested in going. I feel as if she is willing to try it, but does not want to talk about it and if it is to happen, has to happen by accident.Any thoughts or am I just another horny guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the responses, I can surely understand and agree somewhat. I was going to drop the idea when she asked me if we were going to meet my friend next week at the resort for the special event. I told her I didn't know if she was interested and didn't think about it, after reading the responses here, I was not thinking of going. She asked me what we would be doing besides meeting him. I told her we would get a hotel room on site, hit some theme bars, drink, have fun, get a little drunk and just let loose a little. She asked if he would be there and I said yes. She told me to book the hotel. I booked the hotel but told my friend she is probably not into a mfm threesome but is still invited to hang out with us.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (27 June 2012):
 Why are you trying to play with fire? Your wife isn't interested and thank your stars for the fact that at least one of you is sane. Respect the sanctity of your marriage and stop pushing other men on your wife. Nope, you're not "just another horny guy", you are on the route to ruining your marriage if you dont stop.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 June 2012):
 She has made it very clear she is not interested.
She has said NO. What else do you need to hear?
You are trying to push what you want on her.
I can assure you that it will not work out the way you think.
As a former swinger who now will not allow anyone else in my (new) relationship I can tell you that swinging was the beginning of the end of my marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2012): Why are you pushing so hard for something that's blatantly obvious she doesn't want? I understand it's a turn on for you and probably just about every other guy out there, but you gotta respect her opinion on it. No means no. If you value your wife you'll leave it alone, and keep it in your head as a fantasy. Please leave it at that, and be glad that your wife wants only you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2012): Get a grip. Your wife obviously is not interested.
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reader, 1sunshine +, writes (27 June 2012):
 I think you are just horny. Leave your wife alone about it. She obviously loves you. Yeah, porn isn't for real. In real life relationships, there are feelings involved & us women are emotional creatures. This could complicate things. I would leave well enough alone. Dont jeopardize your marriage...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (26 June 2012):
 "she seemed to be thinking of him for she was acting differently while I fucked her."
Or she could be offended that you were pushing so much for a threesome. I highly doubt she was thinking of him or having a threesome with him.
Your wife isn't interested. She's not too shy to talk about it, she's not interested. She's playing along a little because she knows it turns you on and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings, but I can't really think of a way she can be more blunt about this. She's turned you down multiple times, even when the opportunity presented itself.
This sort of thing doesn't happen often in real life, and usually when it does in a monogamous relationship it spells the end of the relationship. This is why porn is a terrible place to get ideas for sex.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Respect her boundaries, stop pushing it.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (26 June 2012):
 You're just a horny guy. he said of course if she was to do it and she was not that interested. Ok....I did get an answer. Exactly, she said she is not interested when you had a SOBER discussionBut for your sake, let's take a look at the other drunken incidents:1."afterwards and having had many drinks, she was a wild woman, I suggested I go get the young man from the hot tub. She said no." She was drunk and still rejected it2. "he wanted to leave (she was starting to feel ill, too much vodka) so we all left.....I also suggested that he may have wanted to join us. She said she wasn't into itShe was heavily intoxicated and yet still is not agreeing to the threesome. I feel as if she is willing to try it, but does not want to talk about it and if it is to happen, has to happen by accident."But she already told you she is not interested. If you want to have another discussion, ask her. Ask her when both of you are not drinking and talk about it. I don't see anything here that would support your case of your wife even wanting to try. And if by accident you mean really drunk, then maybe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): It doesn't sound like she is interested in a threesome at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2012): You are beyond horny. You can/will actually ruin your marriage. Your wife is telling u she is apprehensive, yet u insist. Can u handle the consequences of what may go wrong with YOUR threesome obsession? I think you should just respect your wifes wishes. There are other ways to spice up ur marriage that doesn't have to threaten the marriage.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (26 June 2012):
 Tread very carefully with this. You said you've had threesomes before, but are you really prepared watch your wife enjoy having sex with another man? For most people, the reality never lives up to the fantasy.Don't pressure your wife into doing something she isn't comfortable doing. It appears that she only entertains the idea, after she has had too much to drink. I realize that people don't typically do anything drunk that they would not do, anyway.....but at least if she were sober, she would be making the decision with clear judgment. If she engages in a drunken threesome, when in reality she really isn't comfortable with the idea, then when she sobers up, she could have some very deep regrets and resentment. She will feel taken advantage of.There are so many risks involved with having a threesome with someone you're in love with. There are a lot of posts on this site from both men and women, who lived out their fantasy of having a threesome with their partner, and then reality set in and they couldn't handle the aftermath.
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