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writes:For 1 im with a girl together.Everything is alright, amazing actually she never said anything bad about me or my habbits she slept over at my place, she told her parents about me and they dont have anything against it.My problem is: She studys at college in a city (100km away from her home) and during college she stays in campus and we might quite often (3-4 days a week) and she says she wants to see me and all but during this spring break she went home and we met only once a week and another time she came in the city with some "stuff" to do and we met only for 2 hours altough the night before she promised we would stay alot longer.She gives me the impresion everything is ok but somehow i just feel somethings wrong.Either she dosent really love me or she hides something from me.I really love her shes amazing and i dont want to ruin this relationship so i need some advice...should i be worried?Aditional info...im her 3rd bf, we're 20+ years old she said she never had a long term relationship her longest being ~6 months, we made love till now several times, she says im her 2nd guy she slept with. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2013): Hi
It is hard to say what is going on. You say 'everything is alright, amazing actually', then say she doesn't have a lot of time for you.
She has to go visit her family, so if her parent's know about you and are fine about it, why did you not go with her? Did she invite you?
Could be she needs to study more at the moment and needs more time for that.
You don't say what you do, if you work or are at college too? Do you ever stop over at her place at college or does she always come to you?
If you have a lot of doubts about her then *talk* to her, just *ask* if there's a problem. Don't be clingy if she needs more study time or space, just keep busy yourself.
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reader, YourCoach  +, writes (9 May 2013):
It doesn't seem like shes hiding something. From what you have wrote here it seems shes a sweet girl but maybe she feels pressured by you. Could this be a possibility? You haven't gotten into too much detail here but as stated she has not been in a long term relationship so far so maybe shes afraid of getting too attached to you. Or maybe it is the complete opposite there aint a chance we would know whats on her mind. I would say to ask her directly and see what she says. Tell her that you feel something's not working with you two and see where the convo flows. I wouldnt put to much pressure on her or you after all the relationship is fresh just a month that's next to nothing. If you see shes not sure of herself or even you're not sure of where the relationship is heading theres no shame in taking a break.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso its better for me to let her go?or what ur trying to say is that this relationship is going on the highway to hell?
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reader, human_male  +, writes (8 May 2013):
 She might not be hiding something. But it sounds like her life is taking off and yours isn't, so maybe she feels she's just outgrown you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionint he first phrase i wanted to say 1 month*
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1month in the first phrase
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