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*ayJay101
writes:Well this is my story me and my ex-fiance broke up about a year ago, but still tried to work things out talking on the phone but we just could not work it through. We broke up due to many issues we had in our relationship, mainly trust issues and immaturity issues that i had but i can say proudly i am over that phase. My ex and i broke off on good terms, i was a true gentleman at all times and always told her i would love her forever no matter what. As you can imagine i was devastated till this day i think about her and miss her so much, but one day i get a call from my sister saying that she had talked to my ex-fiance and that they talked for a real long time my sister and my ex are still friends to this day. My sister told me that my-ex was saying that she missed me and wanted to call me, but could not find the courage yet and that i am a great guy and she also mentioned that she might have made a mistake. I was shocked i could not speak as you can imagine, she told my sister she was going to call just could not find the courage, i was happy because i still have feelings for her i am not going to lie. As you can imagine my life has been very confusing since i received this news, because it was totally going in one direction and all of a sudden this happens i do not know what to think. But now i have a huge problem my sister told me this news about 2 weeks ago and i have still not received a call or message from her i just want to know what you guys think this means? Is she going to call? or is she not going to call? and why has she not called? i am just so confused how i should go on with my life should i now contact her? i don't know what to do i am so confused why she hasn't called and if she will ever call?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 Even if I missed my ex's when we broke up I didn't want to get back together with them... there's a reason we broke up after all. But you can still miss someone as a person. So, do not get your hopes up, Im sorry. It would just hurt you too much, wait until you actually hear her say she wants try give it another try before you jump through the roof.
It might be she's been waiting to call you for months and months. It might be she'll wait several more months. It might be she gives it another thought and doesn't call at all.
I actually think your sister should have been more careful with your feelings and not tell you when it is so uncertain. She might never call. Nothing might happen.
If you want to talk to her though... you should pick up the phone and be the one to call her. Without too many expectations.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2011):
 But, didn't you hear what your sister said ?
Your ex missed you, and wanted to call you, just could not find the courage. She does not know how you'd react to her call, maybe she is is afraid that you'd be annoyed, or cold and indifferent- or that you'd tell her : I just got engaged to a fantastic girl and I am much in love.
She is afraid.
You should not be, because now you KNOW ( through your sister ) that she has been thinking of you , missing you, and trying unsuccessfully to muster the courage to contact you.
So, what are you waiting for ? just pick up that phone and call !
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 June 2011):
 Did you not hear what your sister said? Your ex hasn't called yet because she hasn't mustered up the courage to do so!
You can end this waiting game but obtaining your ex's number from your sister and calling her yourself.
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