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writes:Really haven't got a clue where to start with this, my head is just in such a mess. But I hope there is someone on here that can help me , because I just don’t know what to do any more.Suppose I'd better start with some background information.Me and my Girlfriend have been together for just over two years now. Never had any problems, never argue and we both consider each other as best friends. And the trust we have for each other is out of this world. People comment all the time how we are the perfect couple.It all started back about 4 months ago, when I found out my girlfriend was texting a friend of hers, who she also used to have a thing for, but nothing happened because he's not the type of person that could be trusted etc. Into drugs, cheated, has hit girls who he's been in a relationship with among other things. I had no problem with her texting her friend, even when she told me that she still had feelings for this friend but she would never dream of doing anything because of the type of person he is and what we have is too good to throw away for someone like him.This went on for a period of time and she was acting strange when texting her friend, so one day I check her text message inbox (wrong I know)...and I found messages saying things like "why are you being like this horny are you?", "come on let’s do it again, you know you want too", "Are you going to be shy this time?", "Please send me a picture", "Pick me up at 10, can't wait to see you", “come on it will be better next time” etc.Around this time I also found blankets in the back of her 4x4.In the past, several times she has been cheated on by ex-boyfriends and she said that she could never cheat on me, because she's been through the whole ordeal and it’s the worst feeling in the world.And if anything our relationship is better now than ever. We've even just booked a holiday where we are going to tour Africa together for a month.So if she still in love with me, why are these text message appearing on her mobile, suggesting that something is going on? Has gone? Surely she wouldn’t have booked the tour of Africa if she was cheating? Or wanted to cheat?She still tells me that she loves me, and when we talk she talk about our future.So could someone please tell me what is happening in my relationship because I’m totally confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): Hey babes, big Hugs....
You did nothing wrong. You know this and we know this. She's just one of them women who like to cheat and hurt. It's not your fault, there's nothing that you could do.
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reader, IrishJester +, writes (29 June 2008):
IrishJester is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell im just writting to inform you all that i just found out she has slept with this person. So you guys were right, and thanks for your advice. Its werid because i want to cry, but ive shed so many tears over this i cant cry any more. I just feel such a mug, just keep woundering what ive done wrong for her to do this to me...Thanks again guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I had a similar situation. and yes she was cheating, and so is your gf . When she told you she "has feelings for him", should have been enough to realize it. he sounds like an agressive male. and you on the other hand sould like a nice guy,"best friends" the kind of guys girls like to be married to. you have a choice to make in your role in this relationship. if you still want to continue in it. many guys learn to deal with a GF or wife that has to have outside sex. you need to do some reading.in yahoo search type in hotwife or cuckold. I new that I was hooked because of my love for my gf was greater than the hurt of her cheating. so maried 20 years but I know she needs more than I can give her in bed. In all other areas we are perfict mates. best friends, the perfict couple, and yes we agreed as long as it is just sex she can do it with my permission. it actualy will become a turn on for you if you are the type of guy it sounds like in your letter. Good luck and you must choose how much you lover her. or break up and go on with your life. think about P.S. this one very hard. fantisize about her cheating and see if it turns you on a bit. my bet is that you will ger hard when you think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Love is blind - if she's not cheating then I'm Tiger Woods. Sounds like she's got some explaining to do...
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reader, kikicupid  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 Talk to her, confront her- yes you love her and off course its killin you but it seems that this amazing trustworthy relationship isnt what it was- you need to get away from her she is completely out of order, esp after you trusted her so much. Its not ur fault so please dnt blame yourself, she clearly took advantage of that trust and used it against you. Whatever excuse she gives, you have the proof and she clearly cheated. She does not deserve you. talk to her to get some kind of closure n for her to feel the pain too, then move on xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I'm sorry, but yes she's cheating on you and will continue to do so as long as you stay with her.
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