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writes: The other day I was with my girlfriend of two months and we were at her friends bday in a caravan down by the coast. All night her friends were saying how cute we were, when are we getting married, what are we going to call the children etc. this didn't phase me and we both just laughed it off.But then as the night was moving on they were telling my gf "would you ever take him into the room and ride him" which I felt was a bit far.After a while she led me into the bedroom. I told her i didn't want to have sex as we had an audience (caravan walls) and she was fine with that it seemed we just did other stuff talked and fell asleep together. I had work that morning so I said my goodbyes and left. Since then my gf hasn't answered my calls or been in contact at all which is unlike her but a friend saw her so I know shes "alive". What should I do or did I blow it with the no sex fiasco?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): Hey Tray-C,
Wow, sounds like your girlfriend's friends seemed to be way too 'over-the-top' that night and being far too pushy. Your girlfriend must have felt pressurised due to what her peers said, but you might want to explain to her your own opinions. If either one partner in a relationship does not want sex, then it should not occur, to prevent any regrets or similar in the future. Don't take it too hard on yourself - you did the right thing in going with your instincts.
In the meantime, give her some personal space to sort things out. Things will go back to normal in time.
Hope I helped!
- hopeless_xx
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reader, Tray-c +, writes (19 July 2006):
Tray-c is verified as being by the original poster of the question In reply to previous responce. Actully I brought a friend with me to it and he felt they were pushy too, we both left the same time. Well there was some tension beforehand as I didn't reaaly want to go to it but she played the card of how we don't spend enough time together so I went but had a great time. Just still confused
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2006): It sounds as if she maybe found the whole episode extremely embarrassing. Her friends were being pushy and really "over-the-top" with what they said.
I wonder what she might have said to her friend about the party......but it would be difficult and touchy for you to sound out the friend, unless any of your own friends were at the party or have seen her since.
Maybe the best thing would be to call or email, and tell her you miss her and really would like to see her again. If she responds, see what she says, and take it from there.
One question: how were things between you before this happened? Any problems or tensions going on?
Let us know how it turns out; good luck!
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