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*ostinlove42211
writes:i met a girl at college and she seemed to be giving me signals of interest. anyway, we eventually exchanged numbers and began flirting and texting until almost 2am on college night (something i wouldn't expect friends to do on a college night). her friends would also keep looking at me but she couldn't face to face, even when she was facing me.Now to the question: There was one time towards the end of the academic year i came into the canteen and it appeared she was waiting for me. she was sitting on a table with her 2 friends with no food or packed lunch and wasn't in a hurry to order anything. I then queued up so i could buy my lunch and as soon as I did so, her and one of her mates came into the back of the queue behind me. when I looked round to talk to my friend, I noticed she had her back to me, which in my opinion appears to mean she is shy. so i proceeded in the queue and I turned round to talk to my friend again and this time she was facing me and I noticed she was looking at me. I looked at her and we held eye contact for about 5 or 6 secs in a deep, intense way where it felt like we were the only two in the room and her eyes were big, like dilated. Also, after about 3 secs of the eye contact my mind (I think intuition) said " yeah she likes you ". I then turned my back on her and when i looked round again she appeared like she was embarrassed and was over acting in looking at the foods etc. it just seemed like she felt humiliated. so I paid for my food and turned round to talk to my friend again and she again was looking at me. I then looked at her and again we held eye contact for another 5 or 6 seconds and again in a deep prolonged way, again her eyes seemed dilated and I noticed her eyes appeared sparkling. anyways I turned my back again and when i Tried to text her she was very angry and said " oh if i wanted to talk to you I would" and if that was the case I'm pretty sure she wouldn't wait for me or try to be close to me if she hated me. plus after she said that when i next saw her in the hallway, she wouldn't look round at me but her friend did, which means she's doing it for her friend.so what does the eye contact described above mean and can it be faked especially twice, and if you google body language, it say dilated eyes a a key sign if attraction
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reader, DeepRiverWoman  +, writes (12 January 2011):
She was definitely attracted to you, but both times you turned away from her; why did you turn your back to her those times in lieu of starting up a conversation? If you just stood there like a rock, then turned away from her, that body language is rejection, and that is exactly how she took it. I would suggest you try talking to her friend to find out what she would suggest you do to get back in her good graces again. The friend will be flattered you sought her advice, and you have nothing to lose. And if you get another chance, for heaven's sake, strike up a conversation; compliment her on her hair, her jewelry, or anything, but say something and ask a question to keep the conversation going and to ger her involved.
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