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writes:My boyfriend said I love you for the first time over a message on facebook. Since then often sends me messages saying he loves me. He sometimes says it as I am going to leave his house or at the end of a phone callBut he never says it randomly. We have only been together for 3 months but we do spend quite a bit of time together and he is very thoughtful, affectionate and seems into me. Does this mean that he doesn’t really mean it?He's 43 and I'm 33
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): Unless he says it via face to face conversation, with you, in real time and not over any form of internet chat... then it doesn't count, at least for the first time.
I love my girlfriend dearly and many a time I told her via text of Facebook, but it wasn't the same as saying it for the first time with my own voice. It took me over a month to trully mean it that way. I mean I KNEW I loved her from the moment we met, but I held off to make sure and no text message can even come close to saying it to her for the first time.
Sorry, but unless you guys have the guts to say it for real, then it ISN'T real.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 October 2012):
 my husband NEVER says he loves me.... but he does.
does it mean he doesn't?
IMO words mean NOTHING.... do you think he loves you? do his actions show you that he loves you?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 October 2012):
 Do you think he means it? It does seem a little odd to say it for the first time over Facebook, however he may have been petrified to say it. It's a very scary thing to lay it all out like that and he may have opted to play it safer.
I think it's normal at first to not want to overuse it randomly so it doesn't lose it's specialness.
But I think the biggest thing is do you feel loved? When he says it does it make you feel like he is truly in love with you, or does it feel like words?
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 October 2012):
 Some people do mean it and some people say it as a throw a away line. And then there are the people who relunctantly finally say 'I love you' still worried to show their feelings.
Which one is he? Well look at his actions.
Is he overly sentimental such that he gets all filled with hearts and flowers and sugary words but it's all too premature. He really does not even hardly know the girl, and yet he prematurely claims to love you. That is way too early and he's telling you what he thinks you want to hear. Such claims of love are flimsy indeed.
Is he flippant and smart Alick-like? Is he insincere with people he thinks don't matter to him? Beware. His promise of love means nothing.
Or is he more measured in his approach? Is he thoughtful and considerate. Does he listen to you and really care about considering your opinion and involving you. IS he there for you when you least expect. Have his own life and yet prepared to be there for you. Is he reliable and a person who people know they can trust? When this person says "I love you" then you can believe this one as he seems reliable and trustworthy.
Again Look at his Actions. His Actions demonstrate his character And tell you who he really is.
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