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writes: It's not fair - how come so many guys these days just want to be friends with benefits?I'm sick of guys telling me I'm great but they don't want a relationship but can we still sleep together?It sucks and I don't think they realise how much it hurts to suggest that I'm not good enough to be their girlfriend but good enough to sleep with.It makes me wonder if true love is a thing of the past?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your contributions - don't get me wrong - I am not meeting these guys in random bars or clubs. These are guys I have met through friends, work and social situations like sporting clubs and classes. They are nice, smart guys but they don't want to be tied down - they want no strings sex, not girlfriends.I have heard many girls - friends, co workers, sisters friends, all say the same thing - guys just don't want to commit any more - so I am beginning to think that perhaps in this day and age that guys are not interested in having relationships.Evidence is supporting this view but I hope evidence is wrong.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (16 February 2006):
 True love is not a thing of the past and don't let these retards make you think that. True love is out there and you will find it someday, you just have to be open to the possibility everyday, but don't be looking for it, that's just desperate!!!
If a guy thinks you're good enough to sleep with but not good enough to commit to you, don't even give him the time of day. If all he wants is sex and you want more, forget about him, he's not in the place you are and he won't make you happy.
Most guys will have sex with you but it takes a special guy and a great bond to commit to one another and build a proper relationship. I admire you, you don't just want to sleep around and it hurts you to think that's all guys want. But it's not true, some people out there do want what you want and will make you very happy. You hold out, don't give them what they want, you'll just feel used and lonely.
Hope this has helped, hold on girl, it will happen.
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reader, BIGmanwithaBIGheart +, writes (16 February 2006):
 hey, yeah i used to be like that. but i take it you meet them in bars and clubs? that is your answer! do what i did, have a look through your old school yearbooks and meet up with some old friends, i am know with my teenage sweetheart and am very happy! hope it turns out alrite!
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reader, kellyO +, writes (16 February 2006):
 Hi there, yeah there are alot of guys out there that believe in non-strings relationships.But this shouldnt dissuade you that real love doesnt exist. There are also females that believe in such and this to me is more of the individual needs and whether they are ready to commit at that time.
You should ask yourself what indeed u want from a relationship.if the person u consider dating isnt up to that, then u should move on. Dont bring down your beliefs or standards based on what u think others are interested in now.
You could also try a change of scenery. i am not sure where u hang out and meet people since u didnt mention but u could try joining societal clubs depending on your interest. it could be a sports club or recreational club. You can start going to parties e.g birthday, wedding...
Sometimes once true love might not even be far aways. Dont give up u will get there.
Take care now and all the best.
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