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writes:What is anybody's opinion on playing hard-to-get to gain a friendship? I know some personality types that it seems like being nice and friendly is not the way to get to them. Does anybody know what I mean? It seems like they are attracted more to the type of people who are harder to befriend, if you know what I mean. They like a challenge, something to work for.What do you think? I would like to hear some discussion on this. It takes every kind of person to make the world go round! Reply to this Question
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reader, 48years  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 I am particularly attracted to mean people, and there's so many of them! I'm fascinated by their weird and screwed up view of life - and I often learn that there's a very good reason for it. Some have overcome tremendous obstacles. Some are really just curmudgeonly because that's how they were raised. It's like peeling an onion. Most often, I find broken things inside of them. But, every now and then, I'm surprised by the lovely kernel of kindness I find in one of 'em.
Best friends, however, are a different and far rarer matter... and I like mine sympathetic and kindly no matter what passion may grip me.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (6 February 2009):
Yes, what you are saying is true- some people seem to be attracted to those who play hard to get. However, you have to wonder what is actually attracting them to that person.Is it really that person, or is it, they just like a challenge? Playing hard to get is jsut that, plyaing a game, and game players, liek a challenge and like all games, the game eventually ends- so the friendship/relationship does too. Once they 'win' the game (i.e. get the friend/the bf/the gf) they suddenly loose interest. For those who play these games, its all about he chase.
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