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writes:After seven years, my boyfriend cheated on me! SEVEN YEARS! We started dating junior year of high school and got through all of college together. (We were in different colleges, too.) But I had more hopes and faith in this than anything else I've ever been apart of! I thought he was the one! I'm devastated, humiliated, broken, and the only person keeping me alive right now is my best guy friend. I should've listened to him, though! He kept telling me my boyfriend is no good and there are better guys out there. I don't know why I didn't listen to him before! I'm just so, so...I can't even describe the way I feel right now in words. How do I cope with this?
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reader, 48years  +, writes (6 February 2009):
 How do you cope?
Thank your lucky stars you found out what kinda guy he is now, and not after 15 years and three kids!
You're the one that got away! You're the one who's better off now! You're the one he will call again one day (they all do) and you're the one who has to turn her back on bad rubbish when he does call you.
Do you want him back? It's up to you... My mama always said ,"Never go back - always move forward." I know it hurts like hell right now - your ego is crushed along with your dreams and hopes. Every person with a beating heart experiences this sooner or later. Most of us look back and wonder what we ever saw in the person who broke our heart.
Now's your chance to get away from him - there's better things waiting for you! Go and find them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): Seven years is a long time, but it is just a number -just time. This man is not your husband, and while you can be disappointed and hurt, you should realize that neither of you made an ultimate commitment, before God, to one another. In other words, I think people put too much weight on "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" not realizing that the true high calling is to be "husband and wife". That said, even husbands and wives overcome infidelity, which happens in a lot of marriages.Look at this as an opportunity to evaluate whether you want to treat this boyfriend as a husband and work through this broken trust; or realize that you are blessed to be able to walk away and build a relationship that progresses to marriage, hopefully in less than seven years more, and is worthy of investing your hope, heart and fidelity into.Whatever you choose: you will be okay. Your life should not end because humans, who are flawed, do bad things.
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