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writes:I have been married for 15 years and with my hubby for 20years but he just doesn't do anything in our relationship anymore.we don't have sex unless it is a quick handjob (sorry for been rude) he doesn't take me anywhere he doesn't spend time with me, all he is interested in is weed, I do love him but I feel like I am trapped.I want to enjoy life and go places, I feel so sad when all my friends get treated and go places and I don't. what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have tried to understand and see things through his eyes but it doesn't make any difference, I am sick of his actions.so I had enough last night and gave him the wedding ring back, I have made my mind up and decide I have no choice but to move out with my daughter.I have tried everything and all he says is shut up nagging so today I am going to see about another house and do things for me for a change, if he is bothered then he might change but I don't think that he will.
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reader, Crazysecret  +, writes (29 May 2015):
 It appears as though he has gotten pretty comfortable in the marriage and doesn't feel the need to satisfy your needs let alone go out of his way to make you happy. This does not necessarily mean that he does not love you. It only means that that the fiery flaming passion in your relationship might have withered somewhat. I think you should sit your husband down and have a serious talk with him. Do whatever it is you need to do to make him understand that this isn't just some talk but rather a very important problem in the relationship that is making you unhappy. P.S. Make sure he isn't high when you do this. Which btw could very well be the cause of his laziness.Also, relationships are not all take and no give. If you want your husband to do nice things for you, then you might want to consider doing some nice things yourself. Same goes for him; stop giving him handjobs if what you want is sex. By giving him handjobs you are indulging his selfish desires that bring no satisfaction to you. Try to instigate things in bed by going on top during sex and suggest that sometimes he be on top.On a slightly unrelated note, try not to measure your relationships worth by comparing it to the relationship of your friends. That is like looking at models in magazines and then getting depressed about your own body. If your lack of happiness stems from envy of other people's happiness then you will not find genuine happiness in your relationship.Best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2015): What's to talk about, he loves getting high and ignores you, what's to love about him? I would put him to the curb and find the man that will love you and spend time with you, don't waste time thinking about it. You know what you want then you have to do something about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah he says he will change but he never does, I think I only stay with him for my daughter but I think it is going to get to the point where I walk out or throw him out.
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