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writes:Hello, im a little confused about my feelings for my boyfriend, we've been together for a year and a half, I absolutely adore him, and I know he feels the same. But sometimes I get the feeling our relationship is a chore to him.We're only 17, we've got the whole world in front of us and I want to go out and do normal things a 17 yr old does and he don't he want to he wants to be a 37 yr old man with me being his perfect little house wife and having this little routine where neither of us do anything. He just sits at home playing Xbox, I feel like I have to battle for his attention against Xbox, I feel he thinks it's a chore to have sex with me we have it about 3 times a month... He has incompetence in the bedroom a lot! And I'm have an adventurous, high sexual drive and I thought he did too, he seemed to at the start but we always have problems with him keeping it up...He is a wonderful, gorgeous person but he is just boring and lazy, he very rarely does things around the house. I'm feeling very detatched from him and quite angry at him, I sometimes think of leaving him but when I'm with him my heart just fills up with love and can't do it. If I ever did end it it would never be because I don't care about him! What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Itsasecret28 +, writes (8 October 2016):
I know this is old but I relate sooo much to this! Guess you don't use this account anymore though. But just in case, how did it turn out? Did it work?
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 May 2012):
 I'm not saying he needs to change as a person, he needs to change his attitude towards you and like you said, make more of an effort.
And no, of course that's not unreasonable, you're wanting your BF to start acting like he's interested in the relationship, what's wrong with that?
And I'd say a few months is more than enough time, but should he even need to START making an effort? That should be there from the off in a relationship, it sounds like he's getting complacent and is stopping what he did to get you in the first place, he needs a kick up the arse by the sound of things.
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reader, FunkeyyMonkeyy +, writes (27 May 2012):
FunkeyyMonkeyy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe hae spoke about it a couple of times, and he says in over exaggerating and not giving him time and things but I thought a couple of months should have been enough time ? Am I wrong should I wait longer? And I dot want him to change I want him to make more of an effort is that wrong of me and selfish of me for wanting that?
Thanks for your replies :)
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 May 2012):
First things first, have you told him how you feel? 99.9% of problems can solved with communication.
If you have and he's still not changing, then there's nothing more than you can do unfortunately, time to find someone who has the same interests as you.
Good luck.
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (27 May 2012):
First, I'd say you explained the problem well to us. Now, did you already talk with him about these issues?
You really deserve a lot more attention than what you're currently getting.
If he doesn't change I would quit with him.
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